The endless debate. The truth is, neither one of these are a good thing. There exists a third category, The Alpha Male, which is what every guy should aim to become. Unfortunately, nice guys get a much worse rep because jerks get laid more. But in all honesty, jerks are just as bad as nice guys. I’ve made a short list of what I think are some key differences between the three categories. I think that these will give people a better idea about the differences between the three categories and encourage people to think about this topic further.
The main point I’m trying to get across in this post is that the line between being an Alpha Male and being a Jerk has often been wrongly blurred. A jerk is most definitely NOT an Alpha Male. In fact, he’s probably further from an Alpha Male than a nice guy is. The reason why people get them confused is because, it’s true, Jerks DO get laid. They do some very important things right. They display confidence, they are more open to their sexualities, and they stir emotions in girls (even if they’re bad ones). Every Jerk in the world can get laid with the right lines, but only an Alpha Male can make love to a girl. And every Nice Guy in the world can get a girlfriend, but only an Alpha Male can keep one in love with him.
Note: These are the most basic stereotypes, they aren’t true for every specific scenario. i e; there might be a nice guy whose confident or something.
(A) Nice guys don’t respect themselves, they bow down to women and their whims
(B) Jerks don’t respect women, they have no regard for their feelings or needs
(C) Alpha Males respect both themselves and women. They consider a woman’s needs, but never allow women to disrespect them nor do they put women on a pedestal.
(A) Nice guys get girlfriends who cheat on them or leave them for jerks. Eventually when they get older, they find a decent woman to marry because she feels that it’s time to settle down — NOT because she has been swept off her feet
(B) Jerks get laid all the time, but they can’t keep a girlfriend. And if they ever have a girlfriend, they’ll probably destabilize her mental state or lower her self-esteem to the point where she needs to be admitted to a clinic
(C) Alpha Males can get any girl they want. They get more ass than toilet seats. They can get a girl to fall in love with him, and STAY in love with him for the course of their entire relationship. He gets married when he wants to and believes he should — not simply because he is old and needs to settle down.
(A) Nice Guys are afraid to challenge themselves. They follow routines, schedules, and stick to their comfort zones
(B) Jerks may throw themselves into challenging situations for attention and to seem confident, but they fail miserably and end up with a dildo in their asses
(C) Alpha Males love challenging themselves. They exist outside of their comfort zones and face their challenges despite what the odds are against them
(A) Nice Guys aren’t confident. They always seem anxious, apprehensive, and nervous.
(B) Jerks aren’t confident, they’re arrogant. Their cocky attitudes hide deeper insecurities. The image of confidence they paint for themselves gets them laid, but does little else.
(C) Alpha Males Exuberate true confidence. Rather than mask their insecurities, they face them. (Yes, even Alpha Males have insecurities. The difference is that whereas the Nice Guy runs away from his, and the Jerk masks his, the Alpha Male attempts to overcome his)
(A) Nice Guys have small egos (and penises). When they get damaged, they feel broken and constantly feel the need to qualify themselves
(B) Jerks have big egos, that are fragile. When they get damaged, they retaliate or become resentful. Just like the nice guy, jerks feel the need to qualify themselves, but in a different way. They act confident and pretend they don’t care about what other people think of them, until someone prods at his ego. If anyone really gets a good poke in, you’ll see him collapse like a house of cards.
(C) Alpha Males are self-aware of their egos. They are in control of them. They don’t feel the need to qualify themselves, nor do they care how others perceive them. If ever they get mad or emotional because of their ego, they instantly recognize why they are feeling this way and regain control
(A) Nice Guys end up working for people who rule the world
(B) Jerks end up not working
(C) Alpha Males end up ruling the world
(A) If a Nice guy has a problem, he admits it to himself but sees it as hopeless. He blames the external world for his problems.
(B) If a Jerk has a problem, he doesn’t admit it to himself.
(C) If an Alpha Male has a problem, he admits it to himself and then takes steps to solve it. He realizes that change starts from him. By not blaming his problem on external realities, he gives himself power and control over his life.
(A) Nice Guys cry when they’re scared
(B) Jerks laugh or get mad when they’re scared
(C) Alpha Males don’t get scared
(A) Nice Guys are controlled by their emotions
(B) Jerks try and avoid their emotions
(C) Alpha Males control their emotions. They are not scared to feel them, but are also aware of what they are and are not ruled by them.
(A) Nice Guys are fearful of attention
(B) Jerks seek attention
(C) Alpha Males are indifferent to attention. They may get it (and usually do), but they don’t care if they’re in the spotlight or not.