Cut this phrase out of your vocabulary: “I duno”
Indecisiveness is an unattractive trait on par with crab cultures and a rapidly receding hair line.
I hear this exchange way to often:
Girl: Where do you wanna go eat?
Guy: I duno up to you
Girl: I duno either, you choose
Guy: I don’t really care, you can choose
Girl: I’ll choose next time
Guy: Ok do you want Mcdonalds? I’m an indecisive broke ass mofucka so we can’t really afford anything else
Girl: No I don’t like Mcdonalds
Guy: Ok I duno then
Stop taking 20 minutes to choose between facebook profile pictures, stop being indecisive over whether or not you want the umbrella with poka dots or the one with hearts, and stop standing around paralyzed because you can’t decide what to do on a night out. Take initiative, the Alpha way is the proactive way.
Indecisiveness is a habit more than anything else; simply being consciously aware of it will help you cut it out of your infinitely long list of beta traits. Being confused and indecisive is an easy way to lose dominance and trust. Being able to make decisions under pressure is a crucial Alpha trait and a common characteristic of good leaders (leadership and alphaness go hand in hand).
Trust is an important part of your relationship, but not just the type of monogamous trust you’re thinking of. It’s important for your girlfriend to know you won’t be piping blond prostitutes while she’s at work, but it’s equally important for her to TRUST in YOU. Rather than elaborate excessively, just read this quote from Madmen. It’s directed to Don Draper (someone much more Alpha than you).
“A man like you I’d follow you into combat blindfolded. And I wouldn’t be the first one”
Your girlfriend must trust that you can take care of problems, that you won’t be working at Mcdonalds all your life, that you can handle tough situations, and that your balls clank whenever you walk.
Yes, aloofness is an Alpha trait, but it’s not synonymous with indecisiveness. Come into work late, but be the best worker there. Be loving, but be disinterested, be careless yet cunning, disappear for months but appear again with billions of dollars, jump out of airplanes to pass time but never drive drunk, smoke excessively but be super conscious of your health, never study hard but ace all your exams, Miss practice regularly but be the best on your team, ignore a text from an HB10 who wants to titty fuck you in church but never ignore a text from your mom.