How to get more attention from your girlfriend / wife

On February 1, 2011 by Shark

The chauvinistic justifications of any brainwashed AFC for getting too little attention from his girlfriend will have even the most conditioned psychoanalysts utterly baffled.

 

advice for married men

 

“She’s not used to showing affection”
“She doesn’t like PDA”
“She doesn’t have time to talk that often”
“She’s just different”
“She’s not used to showing affection”
“She’s just stressed out right now”
“She has too much stuff on her hands right now”
“She’s having family issues”

Shut the fuck up.

If you sense a lack of devotion from your girlfriend, make no mistake, it is caused by a lack of interest / attraction. If you start making rationalizations to save your ego from getting nuked, prepare to get stuck knee-deep in bullshit. Focus on interest level. Focus on interest level. Focus on interest level. Eat it.

(a) Competitive anxiety- the most fundamental pillar of attraction in a relationship. If ever your girlfriend adopts the mentality that she is the only source of intimacy you have access to or desire, a huge lack of physical desire and attention will ensue. Both people in a relationship should, at all times, feel the constant pressure of a competitive sexual market. If you’re a guy, you already know how competitive anxiety drives people crazy. Men in relationships face the trivialities of competition much more often that girls (even semi good looking girlfriends will get hit on more often by other guys than the crème de la crop of boyfriends). Keep in mind that competitive anxiety should never be induced overtly.

(b) Stability fucks things up- Women desire financial stability, familial stability, and academic stability among other things, but NOT sexual / emotional stability. They do NOT want to know exactly what time you’re going to call them every day, where you guys are going to eat every Sunday, or how all of your anniversary’s are going to be spent. Despite your girlfriend’s incessant nagging about maintaining routines, women ABHOR predictability. If your relationship occasionally catches on fire from emotional turmoil, let it burn in passion.

(c) Never NEED attention: Never, ever, complain about wanting more affection. Attempt to communicate less than she does. For every 3 texts that you get, send 2. For ever 5 dates that she plans, plan 3. Your laconic ways will unconsciously reinforce your dominance, higher social value, and help maintain a frame of challenge.

(d) The “reverse” method never works- AFCs often try and take the opposite approach; they bombard their girlfriends with attention, gifts, and unyielding loyalty hoping that she may reciprocate the emotional back rubbing. This never, ever, ever works in their favor. Many aspects of relationships are counter-intuitive.

 

40 Responses to “How to get more attention from your girlfriend / wife”

  • Wolfie

    True. Keep saying the truth like it is..don’t sugar-coat anything.

  • Blue

    Good work man, very true about focusing on interest level

  • daas

    hi need your advise, I’m in a relationship with girl and we are dating since two yrs and we are planing to get married, she has recently moved into new job, and she loves her work, but these days she is not giving me enough attention, caring and affection, i feel very much insecure… help me!!

    • Harsh maheta

      Hey dont be insecure if she is loving her work then and if she is not giving more attention on u then u shuld start talking with her just know the time when she come home after job and then u should start talking …daily try this ………..and trust me this will work nice if u will wait for her then it will be so late so u must do this daily start talking when she come home back and even in morning also ……………….

  • Alex

    Shark, I cannot thank you enough for how much u changed my game with girls, its unreal how ur stuff works. I did the exact opposite of what u are saying here to my gf in hopes she will appreciate my efforts, everything backfired. So I followed ur advices one by one, started dating other chicks, never talked about my emotions with her I’m ice cold I’m unpredictable , in 2 weeks shes already eating from the palm of my hand I’m fucking stunned the less attention I give her the more she wants me, at first I was like W T F? but it all makes sense now. I love you dude keep up the work.

    • j

      Alex , Same thing here , i tried being the loving attentive pussy , but it just doesnt work with the tough chicks , the ones that make your heart race ! The game is so much more intense when you are both playing instead of being played .

    • Alexander

      I am very happy to see your comment bro. I am in the same issue. This is my story, when I met her she has been disappointed by a guy and I showed all the love and care cos we were in our final year that’s in 2009. We av the been for

      • Alexander

        I am very happy to see your comment and that it has worked for someone. I am in the same issue. This is my story, when I met her she has been disappointed by a guy and I showed all the love and care cos we were in our final year and about to write our final exams that’s in 2009. We av the been for 3 Years. Things started out nicely the affection was there but sexual intimacy no. We got sexually intimate 2 years after. Now as am writing, when she comes to me after work which is only once a week for about 3 hours then she will b sleeping cos she said she is tired. From today, am going to take the steps I av read to see the outcome. Thanx

  • BlackBerry

    superb work Shark. :-) very true . your last (d) suggestion is very true. M in a relationship from past 3 year’s. From past 2 year. we r in long distance relation ship. and i tried every thing to maintain a good relationship, but my GF is to busy with her Job,study, carrier and family that she don’t have time for me and i feel like she is not interested in me, though she she say she love me a lot.
    All i want is her attention, her possessiveness, and time for me.
    if u can help me mail me.

  • White

    hello, Shark, you did an awesome work man.. I never thought things in that way. I had not thought that other people have the same problem as i’m in.. I wanted to ask daas and BlackBerry, did you solve your problems? and how did you do it?
    please help..

  • Derek Smith

    y know women r fucking stupid. its even more simplistically put but all it requires is minimal outsmarting your girl AKA your opponent. but the true opponent is without a doubt boredom.

  • i like their thinks guys ,as well as derek smith

  • It is such a myth that girls don’t like to let their guy just hang with the boys. It’s a terrible lie perpetrated by relationship-phobes throughout the ages. It is totally untrue that we want you to give up your life to be with us. Think of it this way… when we met you and fell for you, you were (hopefully) single and your friends were a big part of your life. Take your friends away and a big piece of the guy we fell for goes with them. So we want you to keep your guy time. We know you need your friends and truth be told we need our friends too. That being said, obviously when you are single you have lots of spare time to spend

    • Artthy Dharus

      YOU said >hopefully< single.
      THINK of this: We were never with someone,
      but we were never single!
      It is important to know, that, if pussy is expensive and vanishes like food because of the women fucking interest level, then it's better to have always supplies.

  • how do i get more attention from her a draw her away from her weak as bestfriend.?

  • Jordainus Coronach

    “The “reverse” method never works” ::
    This is what I am doing exactly and thanks a million bunch for telling me this specific point. I appreciate your effort for saving my life.. literally.

  • Thanks for the advise it means a lot to me, I hope this techniques works, thanks alot

  • Anony

    “She’s not used to showing affection”
    “She doesn’t like PDA”
    “She doesn’t have time to talk that often”
    “She’s just different”
    “She’s not used to showing affection”
    “She’s just stressed out right now”
    “She has too much stuff on her hands right now”

    I have been given literally all of these justifications, and I had been trying my very hardest to believe them.

    I once had a straight out conversation with her explaining why I felt like certain things were not working, especially citing her total inability to be a good girlfriend. Of course I didn’t say it like that, but she apologized and said that she wasn’t really sure how to show affection because she had never been in a relationship before and the fact that she’s just really socially awkward. Basically she asked me to be flat out and just guide her and tell her what to do. If there’s a moment where I expect for her to kiss me and she’s not doing it, she wants me to just say “kiss me”. If there’s a moment where she’s not catching a hint, I should just tell her “I want you to complement me because i feel jealous of blah blah blah”.

    But my gut feeling has still been bothering me for a while. I continue to have the fear that this relationship is destined to go down the drain. The fear is supported by the fact that my first ever relationship fell apart because I smothered the girl. My second relationship was one where I feel like *I* was being smothered too much. And at this point I honestly feel a fear that I can never be in a satisfying relationship where I can feel secure that she loves me as much as I love her.

    Is it possible to have stability and romance? Could it ever happen in THIS relationship? Or is this one destined to be doomed to failure?

  • Andy

    I’ve already tried to address this issue with my girlfriend and she has expressed to me that it was getting annoying.. Is there any coming back from this?

  • j

    The line is so fine , if you back off and give her space does she ever get tired of chasing you ? It worked for me but now im worried that she will get tired of chasing . Not all girls play these games , only the ones i seam to fall for ! Lol

  • michelle

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  • RJ stinger

    Whoa this sure makes a lot of sense.. But I need to tell ya’ll where I normally go wrong.
    Im with this girl for almost 4 years now, I really love her and her family.. its a pretty serious relationship and we planned on getting married …but for the first two years of this relationship, she needed me all the time and no matter what she did, I was always a part of it… I felt very important and wanted by her … To this very day she is my very first priority , i even have her name tattooed on my wrist!
    But since a year , things have really changed and she doesn’t talk to me or meet me that often and she’s got reasons to do so .. even if they sound genuine … i feel im not that important to her anymore…
    when we have fights , she’s more intense and puts me down like nobody has … she makes plans without me and wants to be involved with more exciting stuff other than me, which could probably be more time with friends , family or whatever!! .. I gave up a lot of my space for her and i do agree she needs her own space and she gets it, I don’t ruin it for her though … All i need is her to want me more like before and I wanna be right on top of her priority list … I want the feeling to be mutual.. im ready to work on it …. I really need some friendly suggestions here ….

  • johnny

    hmm.. I was being a nice guy.. but the other night I let Loose.. and said Those naughty things I think about.. I’m shocked at her response.. more txts throughout the day, and more engaged lols.. now she has plans of having me stay over a weekend next month. Guess I might have been influenced by reading these comments from other men lol..oh and yea.. she’s definitely playing the role of the sexual aggressor now.. I guess, hypothetically, I sorta opened the doors and gave her Permission to say those sexy things she’s also been thinking. :$

  • girgsi

    This article is horse shit. Your understanding of life must be one of a child. Find your own paths or follow the bleak advice of others that doesn’t compute the varibles of each human being. Enjoy the next three months of your relationship. Might not survive much longer than that.

    • Artthy Dharus

      Who said anything about relationship with a feminine prototype?
      Each human being?
      Women are human beings?
      So, I was very close to a complete suicide because the imperfect feelings of a female human being?
      Well, in that case, Hitler was a human being too.

  • D.

    All your points are true, to a degree. But #1 will fuck up any meaningful relationship before the 3 year mark (and most before 2 years). It’ll work wonders for the first few months, but they eventually grow so insecure and deprived of attention that they leave the relationship for others or get an affair.

    • Artthy Dharus

      VERY TRUE!!!!
      That is why, you play or get played.
      i’m sorry to say that is very horrible this mentality, in my opinion, but it is truth!

  • Artthy Dharus

    This is the wisest thing for being with any woman, even if she loves you truly!
    Because her love becomes obsession and you are choked or disinterest and you are cheated. Either way is bad, because women wants to be princess, to you or someone else, but show them that they are regular people, because, i know it and you know it, even princess take a poop from time to time, so they are not fucking special with anything, only because The Dick have interest in her, NOT US!!!
    HERE, IN THIS POST IS THE KEY To keep that average relationship and not going too low, or going too high. Marriage should be out of question, you don’t know how worse it could get for you.
    CHEERS FOR THE POST!!!
    Women shouldn’t be let to do what they want with us, but what we let them to do with us.

  • King Royalty

    The truth is everyman and any man shouldn’t stoop low to try to please a woman, to often. A woman should always try to please and assure him with love and affection. That should naturally be her role if she doesn’t do these things she probably doesn’t love you and is not the woman for you. Which nothing can be wrong with that, just don’t get your feelings too involved, players will play. Enjoy life if you and a girl has chemistry enjoy that casual fling but take it only as that. The woman you want to marry is the one who listens to all your problems and actually cares and helps tend to them. simple!!!… #1 rule don’t chase women chase success you’ll end off a lot better in the long run.

  • Alexander

    This is my story, when I met her she has been disappointed by a guy and I showed all the love and care cos we were in our final year and about to write our final exams that’s in 2009. We av the been for 3 Years. Things started out nicely the affection was there but sexual intimacy no. We got sexually intimate 2 years after. Now as am writing, when she comes to me after work which is only once a week for about 3 hours then she will b sleeping cos she said she is tired. From today, am going to take the steps I av read to see the outcome. Thanx

  • Man.1224

    i wish i had found this website before my girlfriend breaked up with me today..

  • Man.1224

    Shark my girlfriend slash bestfriend broke up with meand it hurts she said i was clingy . but i want her back but i don’t know what to doo lol

  • mike

    Help me out a whole lot I was kinda doing these things naturally now I know why …=/

  • i have a girl friend she is kind of not interested with the relatinship with me

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