“hi need your advise, I’m in a relationship with girl and we are dating since two yrs and we are planning to get married, she has recently moved into new job, and she loves her work, but these days she is not giving me enough attention, caring and affection, i feel very much insecure… help me!!”
As the designated “bringer of truths better left unsaid,” I am here to tell everyone that if your girlfriend from a long term relationship has moved into a new job and starts giving you less attention and affection, it’s because her interest level has declined. Combined with a rationalization that she simply needs to focus on other things besides her relationship + potential new mates that are more Alpha than you = hardcore LJBF steroids.
Her new job is…NEW. It keeps her cognizant, challenged, and enthralled. Unless you also do all three of these things, prepare for a drop in “spark”. The absolutely worst thing you can do at this moment is act needy in your relationship. Eliminate everything desperate about the way you act towards her. Even if you feel desperate, just fucking hide it. If she asks if you’re insecure, lie out of your balls.
The answer to your question is ultimately simple; it is only a matter of whether you have enough game to execute properly. If you want more attention and affection, if you want her interest level to be higher; you must be less available, less needy, more confident, more Alpha, and embrace the rites of male caddishness. Do other women want you? Does she feel the competitive anxiety that comes from dating an Alpha in high demand? Do you have other passions besides her? Never forget that no girl has a vagina made out of gold.
If you “feel insecure,” it will show. Remember that relationships are counter-intuitive. If you act more desperate in an attempt to pull her towards you, it will further drop her interest level.
A final note to everyone reading this article. Just because you and your girlfriend are “planning” on getting married doesn’t mean shit. In fact, it doesn’t mean anything even if you guys are engaged, or have BEEN married for years. Beta Backsliding can NEVER be justified. You are never given the luxury of acting beta; needy, desperate, or pathetic no matter how much conventional “security” you have in a relationship. Stay Alpha or end up as road kill.