“Shit I cheated on this girl and she found out. Terrible things are coming out of her mouth. I like her. How do you remedy this?”
This is probably going to be too late, but for future reference…
You silently listen to everything she has to say. Don’t comfort her, DON’T apologize, and don’t withdraw into beta body language. Alpha, in control, you are an Oak Tree.
After her hysterical Levantines have passed (30 minutes to 6 hours), go up to her, hug her, say “I will always love you” or something deep of that sort, and then walk out. The tone must be of alienated remorse combined with some sort of deep transcendent love.
Wait 2-4 weeks for her to call you or to bump into her. Your relationship will be better than ever (if you still wish to salvage it). Don’t answer if she calls to early, it’s just her attempts at getting self-affirmation from you.
There are a couple of things that men don’t realize about cheating on their part. Before delving further into this however, I’d like to add a disclaimer. I would never condone cheating myself, whether in a marital relationship or even a legally unbinding “exclusive” relationship. I know my reader’s might be surprised and expecting some sort of hyper-masculine dogma about how men should marry multiple times or consistently fuck their girlfriend’s best friend, but no. That wasn’t the point of my posts encouraging “polygamy”. You date multiple women but remain honest, you do not front being exclusive. Once you CHOOSE to be in an exclusive relationship (because the girl is worth it, not out of desperation), you have given another woman your word and your commitment. In such a scenario, cheating is a coward’s paradise, not a masculine retreat.
Now, my comments on cheating. Actually, I would categorize this more as “eternal wisdom”
1. Cheating can easily be avoided by jerking off right before you are about to cheat. I’m not kidding, this technique is SO FUCKING DIABOLICALLY SIMPLE, you may start wondering if death or taxes are also avoidable. Seriously, RIGHT before you are about to fuck another girl, go to the bathroom and whack off till your palms grow warts and you can’t get it up anymore.
2. When a girl cheats on a guy, there is a 95% chance that the relationship will fail if they attempt to re-engage. If a guy cheats on a girl, nothing may have changed. Men were biologically programmed to desire variety, a guy can still be in love and simply cheat because he was drunk and had a boner. Women often draw mystified conclusions as to why their boyfriend’s cheated ranging from him being a Neo-Nazi polygamist to having latent multiple personality disorder. No, he just couldn’t keep it in his pants.
3. Relationships that fail after the guy cheats, USUALLY fail for other reasons. The cheating was just an insidious marker that initiated the path to breakdom.
A. He apologized a thousand times and looked so fucking pathetic in her eyes, he was desexualized and she was easily able to move on and use his cheating as her rationale for losing attraction.
B. They DID get back together, BUT now she constantly uses the cheating instance as a way to shit test him. Whenever she does, rather than passing the shit test appropriately like an Alpha, he apologizes or makes excuses or throws a fit. After failing multiple shit tests consistently, she loses attraction for him and dumps him for someone more Alpha.
4. Women are emotional, not logical creatures. It doesn’t matter if Jesus rose up from the dead and made a picture book to logically explain that she is in an unhealthy relationship. If she is ATTRACTED to her boyfriend, and can’t get him out of her head, SHE WILL FIND A WAY TO JUSTIFY HIS BEHAVIOR AND GIVE HIM A SECOND CHANCE.
5. Men who take back cheating girlfriends do so out of desperation. This is the easiest give away for a beta or Oneitis.
6. If you stand hypnotized with despair and simply retort apologies in different languages, you only back-up her ability to shit test you. It’s hard to explain fully, but whenever you apologize to a girl take notice that she will USE IT as leverage. This isn’t because they are inherently imbued with demonic qualities, it’s because all women have a feminine prerogative to maximize male utility. When a guy apologizes for something, he admits that he was wrong — something that he CANNOT retract. It becomes her free ticket to establishing and reinforcing feminine social conventions like shame and super-monogamy (Oneitis). The more you apologize for cheating, the more you subconsciously reinforce within her mind that SHE WAS RIGHT, YOU WERE WRONG, YOU NEED TO BE PUNISHED, JUSTICE MUST BE DELIVERED, etc.
- THIS IS A COUNTER-INTUITIVE PROCESS. GUYS ASSUME THAT APOLOGIZING CONSISTENTLY LOGICALLY LEADS TO MORE FORGIVENESS. NO… APOLOGIZING CONSISTENTLY ONLY SUBCONSCIOUSLY REINFORCES THE IDEA THAT YOU MADE A MISTAKE AND GIVES HER MORE LEEWAY TO SHIT TEST YOU AND PUT YOU THROUGH HELL.
7. Moral Relativism is force fed to men, more so after an instance like cheating. Her friends might come down on you like vultures. Don’t give a fuck.
8. The effect of male cheating is exceedingly exaggerated in today’s society (female cheating is a different story. If a girl cheats, the relationship is most likely over. See the post on “emotional cheating”).
Does this mean that if you cheat, you’re still guaranteed to get back together? Hell no. But groveling won’t increase your chances.
Even if you forget everything else in this post, just remember this (preferably for the rest of your life):
***Women would rather share a successful Alpha than have a faithful beta loser to themselves***