Holding Eye Contact With Ex-Girlfriend
Reader Comments:
“Shark, me and my friends are having a huge debate on weather to make strong eye contact with an ex gf, on one hand we are left with the question that strong eye contact is a trait of an alpha but on the other hand eye contact with an ex gf might encourage her to think the person at question is madly in love with her. which one to follow u tell we do”
Neither approach is entirely correct. The reason you guys are having this debate is because some sites say that Alpha’s use strong eye contact as a way to sub-communicate their dominance while others say that they “stare distractedly” into space in the middle of conversations as a sign of their amused mastery. Both are correct, depending on the circumstances. The two are not mutually exclusive the way you guys are categorizing them to be.
If you are already engaged in a conversation with an ex-girlfriend, you hold strong eye contact if you are the one talking. Holding eye contact demands submission from the listener. Look closely and you’ll always notice betas looking down while they talk or dart their eyes even during gregarious exchanges. If she is the one talking then you remain careless with eye contact, aloof yet engaged at the same time. Blending the two together creates a potent female crack that sends vaginas into AnoOrgasmic shock.
If you’re demanding attention => Hold eye contact
If someone is demanding attention from you => minimal eye contact (but don’t look down or scared like a vagina)
If someone is talking to you but you’re in a dominant position => Hold eye contact (If someone is trying to gain approval from you)
If you guys are on speaking terms, then you hold strong eye contact when you say hi. If you’re not, then you avoid eye contact. If you’re on medium terms and she tries to say hi, you respond and hold eye contact otherwise you’re trying to ignore her. Remember — the goal is never feigned disinterest or negligence. It’s to really not give a shit and move on because you have more important things to do, a CARELESS self-mastery to the point of caricature.
The whole deal with eye contact is more complex than it seems and trying to memorize rules for it is a trivial way to go about mastering it. If you feel Alpha and hold intrinsic value, you will naturally do the right thing without any cognizance.
Hey how do you avoid girls thinking that you see them as just empty lifeless shells to have sex with? is this even a bad thing?
love u maannnnnn ! u talk like a hero u sound like a superhero !
Shark,
what does it mean when you are meeting a girl and she closes her eyes as you are shaking hands? this happened to me the other night.
She blinked.
lol@^^^^^^^^^that
So you have no idea then, do you?
it means she is taking a pause. which MEANS she holds deep excitement for you i,e (she cant believe she is going to shake hands with you) (PRIMARY SIGN OF ATTRACTION) in other words she likes you.
Shark many dating gurus says that buy new stuff, look sexier, “self develop yourself” and ur ex will jumb back into ur lap, i was wondring if i do buy new stuff it kinds contradicts with your statement “dont give a shit” coz see my ex will start thinking that im doing all these to impress her, so what should u say will myself self-development boost her pride in thinking that this chap is really trying hard or should i just dress up like an average jeo to show her that “i dont care”
I saw this on Roissy a few days ago and it works magic.
My ex has been dating this other dude. A few days ago, before my trip to Europe (I wont see her next time until next semester), we talked for a little bit.
I acted chill and held my eye contact according as per Shark/Roissy’s advice. The effects:
1) I felt a lot more in control
2) I saw her facial expression turning coy several times, which has not happened.
Almost ended up hooking up with her, but she stopped me saying that she can’t do this to the other dude. I felt great about the entire interaction.
At the same time though, do her actions mean that I shouldn’t get back with her even if she wanted? (Since she kinda cheated on her current not officially ‘exclusive’ boyfriend)?
hey shark, the “i dont care” act indicates that you dont basically care, how will an ex think they lost the biggest deal of their life if you are mean to an ex ? isnt it contrary ?
the question is HOW to feel alpha ?