“Shark, me and my friends are having a huge debate on weather to make strong eye contact with an ex gf, on one hand we are left with the question that strong eye contact is a trait of an alpha but on the other hand eye contact with an ex gf might encourage her to think the person at question is madly in love with her. which one to follow u tell we do”
Neither approach is entirely correct. The reason you guys are having this debate is because some sites say that Alpha’s use strong eye contact as a way to sub-communicate their dominance while others say that they “stare distractedly” into space in the middle of conversations as a sign of their amused mastery. Both are correct, depending on the circumstances. The two are not mutually exclusive the way you guys are categorizing them to be.
If you are already engaged in a conversation with an ex-girlfriend, you hold strong eye contact if you are the one talking. Holding eye contact demands submission from the listener. Look closely and you’ll always notice betas looking down while they talk or dart their eyes even during gregarious exchanges. If she is the one talking then you remain careless with eye contact, aloof yet engaged at the same time. Blending the two together creates a potent female crack that sends vaginas into AnoOrgasmic shock.
If you’re demanding attention => Hold eye contact
If someone is demanding attention from you => minimal eye contact (but don’t look down or scared like a vagina)
If someone is talking to you but you’re in a dominant position => Hold eye contact (If someone is trying to gain approval from you)
If you guys are on speaking terms, then you hold strong eye contact when you say hi. If you’re not, then you avoid eye contact. If you’re on medium terms and she tries to say hi, you respond and hold eye contact otherwise you’re trying to ignore her. Remember — the goal is never feigned disinterest or negligence. It’s to really not give a shit and move on because you have more important things to do, a CARELESS self-mastery to the point of caricature.
The whole deal with eye contact is more complex than it seems and trying to memorize rules for it is a trivial way to go about mastering it. If you feel Alpha and hold intrinsic value, you will naturally do the right thing without any cognizance.