Social Proof and Negs
Reader Comments:
Excellent piece! So is the infamous,”You’re very beautiful, but beauty’s common…” neg still needed for 10s if you’re in that ultra high position? I’d assume that if you’re charming AND alpha, you wouldn’t need negs right? Where does the ” social proof” come into play?
I wouldn’t use that neg in particular because it sounds cliché and makes it obvious that you’re trying to neg her. In any social milieu, as soon as you place yourself in a position of qualification (trying to be funny, trying to be cocky, trying to be cool) the reins of power shift out of your favor. Any type of neg that overtly communicates your purpose (to depreciate her sexual market value against yours) always ends up doing the opposite.
Social proof is the strongest aphrodisiac in existence. It permeates a woman’s physical/mental desire so ubiquitously; all other factors are rendered relatively mute. If you have enough social market value, being “internally” alpha isn’t even necessary. I’m sure you’ll recall several prominent historical figures who weren’t alphas — but were still Alpha. Napoleon was infamous for his severe Oneitises, fascist dictators were all manically paranoid, and Ghandi practiced abstinence.
If you have enough social proof, then no, you don’t need negs. In fact, it would be a better idea to relinquish the dark side of gaming. If a girl perceives you as way above her league, then a neg will come off as an insult rather than an artful tease. If she thinks you’re way below her league, a neg will make her pissed and/or annoyed. Just because a girl is a “ten” doesn’t mean it’s impossible to be “way out of her league.” While women are biologically more valuable than men, Alphas are biologically more valuable than everything else in the universe.
You have to practice cold reading. Intuitively grasp how a girl perceives you, and then adjust your game accordingly. Each pursuit must be tailored to the individual target. To each, her own.
I have no idea what image to use in this post so I’m just going to add this picture of a hat:
I am going through severe Oneitise, Have tried avoiding all contact plus shown massive social proof on Social networks plus Phone/Text. (I am a well know DJ), read all the articles you published and have had tremendous Insights on how thinks ought to be we as men are naturally Alpha. Shark Even though the knowledge is there My mind still has thoughts of her, or get her she’s playing hard to get, and after no contact from my side she’s still not showing ENOUGH interest. Please let me know how to get over this or get her interest levels back to what they were. Its killing me softly and affecting my health, and me as a person overall. . . Thanks.
the image is “duin it”
Love the hat
Hey Shark.
How do you deal with a really emotionally unstable girl, she has suffered from anorexia and is finally coming out of it now. How should you treat her?
Hey shark, I recently went on a first date with a girl and I’m not exactly sure how it went, I’m curious of the signs women give off on a first date if they are interested in a guy or not, and how (in a alpha manner) I should go about trying to get another date with her, if at all.
ha, Hat