Staying on her mind
Reader Comments:
“What about Jay-Z’s #1 rule: Stay on her mind.”
“Mind” is the key word. This is simply another rule vomited out by a society marginalized from it’s own embrace of feminization. “Stay on her mind” means stay on her MIND; not outside of her doorstep, not next to her at all times, not on the other line of the phone 24/7, and not by her bedside creepily staring at her while she sleeps, thinking that what you’re doing is a romantic gesture.
Neil Strauss puts it beautifully in The Game. At one point he describes how he REFUSED to sleep with a girl and despite not having sex, it was his best execution to date. The obsession with “F-closing” blurs the actual fundamental — Creating desire. Technically the most efficient close ever would be me in Thailand when I asked a girl “How Much” and immediately received 4 consecutive blowjobs. But I promise, there wasn’t much “game” involved.
Similarly, it’s easy to misinterpret “staying on her mind.” To illustrate,
When does a girlfriend think about her boyfriend the most? When they’re living together and sharing a toothbrush or when he’s out on a trip and she’s a tad bit jealous over all the female attention he gets?
More anxiety/love is created by absence and dread than security and familiarity. The key is not just to “stay on her mind,” but to create anxiety in her mind, to make her wonder about you, to be avante-grande, caddish, and unpredictable.
Seems an appropriate place to ask this:
I’ve added a new fuckbuddy to my harem. I actually sort of like her, she keeps me on my toes, but in a good way.
I stick to the Roissy’s Golden Ratio with communication with her on the whole. I’m a busy guy.
One thing I’ve noticed though, is that she drunk texts and drunk calls me when she isn’t in town. She goes bananas if I don’t respond (normally she is quite reserved). By this I mean she flips between anger and obvious anxiety/worry.
What are you thoughts on this? Has the drink shut down her barriers, and she’s demonstrating to me she’s thinking of me? (and not fucking anyone either) Or is she seeking beta attention? (and/or has been fucking someone else and feels guilty)
Being on her mind is the best key in a game success. Me n my wife live in different country for few months due to bad relationship not working out but now things going great after your rules plan. While following I’ve been on this article stage and I can say I am on her mind right now. The sentence you wrote is bit scary that
“she’s a tad bit jealous over all the female attention he gets?”
Well in last conversation with my wife, she asked me “How many staff in your new office and how many male & females?” To be on her mind I said “3 Male & 1 Female” (even though no female). Afterwards she became bit silent on the phone and I guess that she’s feeling jealous as I already withdrew attention from her this days.
My question is that going back to 3 months back when I was being beta for 6+ months she’s been always saying me to leave her alone forever and let her live life by herself the way she wants. But now I am being alpha and things are changing for two months now so do you think this bit of jealous will back fire? Will she think by herself that
“He got attention from girls in her office thats why he’s not giving much attention on me while I can live my life happily that I’ve always wanted” ???
BTW ever since I am being alpha she’s been calling me most time not me calling her coz I stopped that according to game plan.
As u said ” anxiety/love is created by absence ” but WHY this doesn’t work in Long Distance relation ship ?? give me some tip/Idea to regain that attention from her. We are in relationship from past 3 year. and from past two year I tried almost every thing maintain our relationship. I tried every thing to stay on her mind. but didn’t get any success.
She says her carrier and family is most important. She do love me a lot (which she used to tell me) but she doesn’t have time to call me or txt me. when she is in any kind of problem only that time she txt me Missss you dear, and that also after 3 to 4 months.
plz help me to make my self dominating person so that i can stay on her mind. i want to get back that much or more attention from her which i used to, 2 yr back.
plz mail me.
Hi Shark,
I have a few questions about the female mind. How often do girls talk a lot among their female friends about guys, ex bf’s, current bf’s, other guys, alpha males, guys with social proof, guys they say they want to fuck? Do they compare eachother bf’s with eachother bf’s? Do they get vagina tingles over guys that might be more attractive than their current bf’s? How much game would you have to run to sleep with your ex best friend, sister, cousin? If they initiated a break-up and the guy goes no contact do they constantly talk among their girlfriends asking why? Do they go crazy as well? Have crazy thoughts? Thoughts like is he with someone etc? Sometimes my mind drifts and I start thinking crazy thoughts, who she with, who she fuc-king now etc. Do girls think the same way? Are they better at rationalizing breakups? Are they more immune and better at coping with breakups?
What’s up shark,
My question pertains to a recent ex who i was kinda gaming long distance just for the hell of it since there is a good chance she might be back in town sometime soon. I’m not worried about having any success with her as a booty call which i know i have top priority with her in that department but i was wondering; i executed a nice pull/push strategy by igoring her completely for a few days after displaying aggressive interest initally. It worked beautifully and she went batshit crazy wondering why i was’nt taking her calls/replying to her texts and claimed “i know it sounds like an excuse just to talk to you but i felt something terrible might have happened and just wanted to know you’re ok” well i choked after that. i replied to it and entertained her and ofc she went a bit cold again. what was the optimal way of handling that if i wanted to keep her hamster going at full speed? just continue to ignore and let her wallow in her anxiety?