“hey bro, ur atricle saves lives man, how do re-connect with an ex gf after a long period of “no contact” “i dont give a :) abt u look” “die b!tch die” “do me a favour, go fuck ur self will ya” what u say just hi after all of these and sing “kumbaya” beneath a tree and ding dong done deal ? or do u look for start off with something else.
I mean once u get the hang of being an alpha it’s kinda hard to let ur guard down for an ex and go talk to them in a civil manner with mutual understand.”
You’re taking the wrong approach to no-contact. The point of “no contact” is to reduce a girl’s significance in your life by eliminating her presence from your mind. If you treat her abrasively, you only reinforce her significance within your subconscious. You have to TRULY not give a shit.
As for re-initiating contact with an ex, you have to do so nonchalantly. If you make it obvious that you were trying to ignore her before, the spell is broken and she immediately gains hand because she knows that YOU CARE more than she does. Cardinal rule of any relationship: whoever cares LESS has more power. With an ex-girlfriend, you MUST remain in the dominant position to spark enough attraction to get her to spin on your tracks again.
You treat her like a friend, like you have absolutely no ulterior motives while obfuscating her facilities with superior game. Utilizing pre-selection is exceptionally important; it MUST be obvious that you have other options besides her. Any hint of desperation and you risk coming off as a vagabond.
Prepare for a slew of shit tests. Handle them appropriately by never letting them phase you, responding suavely, and using them to establish higher value. Example:
Girl: Why did you buy that girl a drink?
You: She looked dehydrated
(Wrong way to handle this would’ve been if you started arguing about how “it was nothing”)
Never backpedal after a shit test and take nothing seriously unless she has you at gunpoint. Tease her artfully, not harshly; and never come off like you’re trying to be funny. At the end of a letter to a girl of dubious stature, you can sign it with “Send my regards to the midget mafia.” But if you insult her directly about her height, your game comes off as coarse, not refined.
And finally, a word of wisdom. It is always energy better spent seeking out a new relationship than trying to salvage a broken one.