“I see you reference Roissy in some of your articles, and I’ve been following his blog lately.
I realize that some of the stuff he says though, is quite jerk-y and almost cowardly. It’s definitely not often, but when it happens, I just think ‘wtf’?. I think these things are in direct contradiction with what I believe an Alpha to be, and it contradicts with concepts in your articles too.
Most recently, there are some examples, in his latest article: Top 10 Signs You’re Not A Beta Male
He says things like:
“Alphas often enjoy a laugh at others’ expense, and betrayal, normally an invidious vice, is just another tool in the alpha’s box of Machiavellian self-advancement. Alphas will sometimes tear others down just for the cruel thrill of it, even when it serves no useful purpose.”
” No.4 You Blame Others
An Alpha Male takes responsibility for his own actions.
Not if he can get away with blaming failures on others. If successful, naturally he will seek to take as much credit as possible.”
Sure he puts out some good articles, but I feel in rare cases, some of his stuff is jerk-like/cowardly/petty.
What are your thoughts on this?”
Roissy has been a huge influence on me, I’ve been following his blog for a while, but yes, I have a different opinion on a lot of things. None of the concepts in game (not even the fundamentals) are static, they are fluid and can be perceived/ utilized / understood in different ways. The Roissy’s and the Roosh’s, the Strauss’s and the Mystery’s will always lock horns, but it’s only natural. When guys learn game, they grow BALLS. Which means unlike the feminized men out there who follow cosmopolitan, loveshack, and all these AFC breeding forums, guys who read game blogs are taught to be MEN. They are NOT afraid to disagree and question things that are taught to them. If you surf through all the comments on this blog alone, you’ll see a shitload of people disagreeing on stuff that I’ve said. I encourage it.
I understand why you think a lot of Roissy’s stuff is petty or too jerk-like, it’s because we have a different take on a lot of the stuff he talks about. After accurately deconstructing the institution of marriage, Roissy supports an all-out rejection of the entire idea. He is CORRECT in saying that marriage is an INSANE compromise for men, it makes absolutely no sense. HOWEVER, the society we live in has created a cultural apparatus designed specifically FOR MARRIAGE. To reject it would be like to live in poverty all your life because you reject the idea of capitalism. I don’t think someone needs to reject the entire institution, I just think the thousands of guys out there who act like indentured servants with their wives need to wake the fuck up and start acting like men. Dump a girl who doesn’t deserve your commitment, but don’t be too trigger happy in every relationship out there. Take your time choosing, but don’t expect to find some “perfect” girl out there. In other words, just find a relative balance in everything you do.
I’m going to get married one day, and have kids, and I’d support any of my readers if they made that decision. But when I get married, I’m not going to turn into some whish wash AFC who begs his wife for sex and gets whipped by his mother in law. I’m going to keep my wife’s interest level over 85% consistently. I’m going to have my own life, lead my own dreams. My wife will defer to my leadership not because I’m some macho man who exerts his authority over everyone, it’s going to be because she believes in me, and has faith in my ability to provide.
Utilize the positive aspects of being a jerk, like his fluidity with sexual dynamics and his unwavering confidence, but avoid his vices. Where nice guys hold their insecurities within them, jerks simply extrovert them. Be an asshole, but not a douche bag. Be a dick, but in a way that pokes a girls ego and makes her want to impress you, not in a way that depresses every ounce of her self-esteem.
To Summarize: A lot of the “extreme” stuff authors write may be true, but I personally don’t think it’s necessary to follow them. Apply the concepts in game, but don’t get too carried away by them. For example, when I say “be ruthless,” I don’t mean start a genocide. I’m just giving you inspirational words so you feel like you can take over the world.