Always Be Different
“Imitation is Suicide”
Back in high school when everyone acted immature, it was Alpha to hold the door open for a girl. It set you apart from the hordes of betas who would shamelessly sacrifice their left testicles for a chance at glimpsing a vulva but had no idea how to do it. It made you look smooth, and gave your game a refined edge. Today, chivalry is a dead art. Supplication is too expected; everyone is surrounded by a universal whirl of courtesy and repressed sexuality.
The Don Juan always sets himself apart. If no one has manners, he displays a superior etiquette. If no one is holding doors, he DOES because he is in control, a figure of authority. When everyone’s holding doors open, he never does. That fagaisy shit is reserved for pussies and valets.
The era of synthetically run game is evolving. Magic tricks will no longer work, most of the classic PUA openers are nearly extinct, and women tend to be much more aware of when game is being run on them. Again, you must set yourself apart. If your work place is filled with testosterone pumping jockeys, practice patience. Where other guys jump in for the kill too early, you wait to constrict your prey with the crushing beauty of your charm. If your work place is filled with nice guys who are ashamed of showing any signs of their desires, you become an animal, more aggressive, more carnal, and more calculative than everyone else.
If everyone waits 3 days to call, you call in 2 or 4 days.
If everyone dresses in suits, you either 1-up them by wearing custom suits or learn to peacock.
If guys never turn down an opportunity to have sex, you say “no” once or twice.
Always run contrary game. Learn to set yourself apart.
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When do you run the risk of “acting different just to be different”? Or is that not something one should be ashamed of?
Being different just to be different is fine. Being different in a desperate attempt to show HOW different you can be is bad. Women can sense that shit from 40 yards. Always remember that you want to stand out, but in a better way.
Example: in my town, almost all guys here where a Polo shirt with a white under shirt and shorts with maybe some Nikes. Imagine this at a bar for more younger people. When I go there, again for example, I’ll wear a short sleeved MK2 shirt from Express, skinny tie (loosened), top buttons of the shirt unbuttoned, grey slim fit denim, and a nice casual shoe from Steve Madden.
For me, being different equals:
1. I try to always dress better than everyone, even if it’s just a tee and some jeans.
2. Chodes will ask you if you’re gay.
3. Women give me the bedroom eyes.
My only problem is approaching. My rapport is baller, my wit is sharp, great energy, etc. Just don’t have the balls to open. Perhaps that’s why they ask if I’m gay? Sometimes I can open, but it’s not consistent. And I don’t know great ways to approach success. But I’ve never really had success at a bar/club unless I had a girl with me, then I can open anyone.
I think I need work on social proof and how to establish it. I’m I just did day 5 of Insanity by Beachbody, I know the physical shape will help. I’m getting two businesses going, the success from them will helps.
…but yeah, be different because you’re better, don’t be different because you’re trying to impress. It has to look flawless. With my girlfriend (or any girl I’m with), I’ll open the door for her to get in the car, then by the time I get to mine, she has opened mine too. I think that you can almost do anything and make it alpha as long as YOU are always CONGRUENT with yourself and your life.