How to Handle Other Assholes
To my understanding, many of the guys who read this blog are not familiar with the PUA community so I refrained from using the conventional term: “AMOGing” in the title of this post. From here on in however, we will be referring to terms and concepts with their proper titles / acronyms because I’m too lazy to explain everything to you guys. Look them up if you don’t know what they mean.
When another guy tries to out-alpha you, your natural inclination will be to respond in two ways. Either
(a) Submit if he is beyond your reach of power. If you just got hired as an entry-level analyst for a financial firm, it’s unlikely you’ll try and AMOG the CEO.
(b) Respond with hostility if you consider him a competitor.
Don’t worry about (a), there’s no shame in looking up to guys whom we have a large amount of respect for, especially if they’re Super Alphas you would model yourself after. Role models provide solid ground for progressive thought and self-development.
(b) Can occur in a variety of ways. Generally you want to do the opposite of whatever the other guy is doing, but simply in a more Alpha manner of exchange. So if he’s ignoring you or trying to be a dick, you should be nice and humor him but show slightly less interest in the conversation. If he’s trying to eject you from a set, you act as if you OWN the set and are trying to include him in it. Be his friend, he could use the help.
If he’s the one who’s trying to humor you, compliment you, build rapport, etc, you have to be a bit of a douche but under a playful frame. So if he’s talking about his ex you can ask him “oh what was his name?” If your dick move is accompanied by laughter, you’ve done it correctly. Generally the winner of such a battle will be determined by each competitors level of wit and the amount of social proof they have.
I know most people say you should abstain from violence, but I’m not going to lie, I’ve punched people before if they pissed me off enough. Generally if the fight was even and I knew he didn’t have a thousand friends around. If he was twice my size, I’d probably call for an arbiter.
Betas have a tendency to react with sarcasm or chatter if your charisma is working a room way better than they could. The best way to respond to this is by ignoring it. Simply omit them from the conversation as if they were irrelevant. The idea is to make their “2 cents” seem insignificant. If you address beta chatter, you immediately raise their social value because YOU are the current alpha and by treating them as a threat, you treat them as an equal.
If all else fails, eat him to absorb his alphaness
Great article Shark. As I become Alpha…I received a lot of jealousy from other guys and they are start being hostile to me. Some reallt cock-block me all the way…these sore-ass losers but I said to myself it’s not worth the confrontation and not any girl worth a stupid physical fight in the club. Anyway..is it normal as you become better in your game and become Alpha, some people will start projecting animosity toward you and try to crowd you out cause they see yo as a threat?
Hey wolfie, I’m speaking from first hand experience here and in most cases this can be easily avoided.
A lot of the time, if you have some kind of reputation, people don’t know you well see you as someone who thinks they’re the shit and very snobby. This is because they’re jealous of you and see you as a threat, but the reason they feel these things if because THEY DON’T KNOW YOU.
All you have to do if when you enter the club or you see them outside of the club, just give them a friendly smile or a raise your eyebrows – do this with the intent of being friendly and sociable, but with not the intent of sucking up to them or wanting them to be your friend. Gangster types where I’m from usually do this as a sign of acknowledgement if they walk by. Either this, or they make no eye contact with you, or they mug you. But by making eye contact and raising your eyebrows or something, you come off as less malicious.
This eliminates any hostility towards you because, originally, they ASSUMED you were a prick without getting to know you, but if they see you’re friendly to them, it would be awkward if they tried to start anything against you. Nah mean?
what do you have to say about dating relationships and anniversaries? like a one month or something like that..
great stuff shark. jays comment is also exactly on the spot. what i noticed is what works really good is to be friendly with everybody and the other alpha and set traps or wait until he sets one for himself and then just nuke him. it is hard to give an example it goes somewhere along “what was his name” but is a hidden challenge. he can only submit or react like lets sort it outside. on the outside it is friendly though. in both cases he loses since he let it get to him.
Hey Jay….thanks for the advice…appreciated. I guess it’s true as we become more alpha…we have to raise our level of awareness about how we are being perceived by others and how to handle this phenomenon. I am glad to find someone who also went through the same thing like me first hand.