What’s the first thing you say to a girl?
Mystery’s material on approaching is pure genius, if you’re really interested in reducing the art of cold approaching into a calculated science, I suggest you watch a season of “The Pick Up Artist” on VH1 and read up on some of his stuff / watch his videos.
Unless you plan on losing your virginity posthumously, you HAVE TO learn to talk to girls. It’s not an innate talent; it’s a skill that anyone can pick up through practice. So if you’re bad at it, start making friends with fat chicks and old people, they’ll love the attention and give you good practice. Seriously, you have to PRACTICE being charismatic and learn to vibe appropriately.
Personally my two favorite ways of approaching are
A. Saying something contextually funny
B. Dropping a subtle Neg
(A) Mystery gives a great example of this in one of his seminars. He’s walking through a club with headphones on and when a girl gives him an inquisitive look, he replies “yah…the music sucks.” More important than the actual line is HOW he said it. It was reactive to her look, no hint of desperation; he doesn’t walk up to girls and ask them “hey you wanna know why I have head phones on?” The humor itself is CONTEXTUAL so it looks spontaneous + genuine.
(B) This is a real pick-up I’ve done, and proof that hard negs work. I wear a voo-doo looking bracelet sometimes (I use around 14 different personas) and it was gaudy enough to get a slightly chubby 8 to ask about it. I told her I got it from a shaman who promised it would keep fat chicks away but recently it wasn’t working. Naturally, it was a successful pick up.
What you want to stay away from is saying awkward shit or giving off a creepy rapist aura. This usually comes about when you make it blatantly obvious that you’re hitting on a girl. You never brazenly hit on a girl because it immediately pedestalizes her. If you’re in a set, her friends will immediately establish social sanctions against you or give you the “desperate herb in the corner” label
“What you want to stay away from is saying awkward shit or giving off a creepy rapist aura. ”
Easier said then done ><.
Random strangers in the street flee when I approach.
I must be doing something wrong.