hey shark, ive been reading a lot of the blog posts from the blog linked above, and right now i’m extremely split and confused. Both of your guys’ content makes sense and is rational, but that’s exactly the problem. They just so happen to contradict each other.
Reffering to: http://lifestylejourney.blogspot.com
The arguments posted on this blog are either non-exclusive or based on false assumptions that extend from a lack of knowledge over Game. Let’s go through the last 5 blog posts.
Post # 1: “Paying for sex is more alpha than using PUA methods”
The title is a misnomer, the post has nothing to do about how “paying for sex is Alpha.” It’s about the economic efficiency of paying for prostitutes vs investing money into Game products. In that respect, the author is correct; any aspiring PUA will save a shit ton of money hiring prostitutes instead of paying for entry into clubs, DVD sets, etc.
But in terms of being Alpha, paying for sex falls short in several ways. First, rarely do guys enter the field of game purely in search of sexual pleasure. Such shortsighted goals can be fulfilled by investing into a flesh light or Brazzers. No, they get into it for Power. Power over themselves, over their relationships, over their ability to attract others. They get into it because they aren’t happy with who they are or where they are in life. They are disappointed in their inability to attract women, the dregs of betatude, and their incapacity to maintain a meaningful relationship. I promise you, prostitutes won’t fix this.
Second, in what way is paying for sex Alpha? When was “saving money” inaugurated to the tenants of masculinity? Does it display confidence or dominance when you see a guy save money? Do women get turned on when guys whip out coupons to save money? Is it NOT a show of desperation to tell yourself “I can’t attract women, so I’m going to resort to the most economically viable solution?” Anyone who reads this blog will tell you that the concepts they learn help them progressively improve in life. Are you a better man by the 10th prostitute you fuck than you were with the first one?
And finally, STDs, HIV, and it’s illegal.
I’m surprised you saw this as a “rational” counter-argument to game.
Post #2: “Miscellaneous Points”
modern men can only be descended from the most sexually successful men of the past. This is a very under appreciated and unacknowledged fact about men. So it is absurd when PUAs say that the average man supposedly has so much to learn when it comes to meeting women, and that acting “normal” just doesn’t cut it with the modern woman.
For 6 million years men have biologically perfected to spread their seed to as many women as possible. Are there not men who take vows of chastity? Are there not men who decide to settle down with only 1 woman their entire lives? Are there not religions that go against evolution; and yet have been sufficiently successful at denaturing humans through socialization?
The average man has much to learn because he doesn’t live in an average world. “Men weren’t really the enemy — they were fellow victims suffering from an outmoded masculine mystique that made them feel unnecessarily inadequate when there were no bears to kill.”
Guys learning game embody the idea of not bowing to women only in the context of doing whatever it takes to get them. It’s comforting to them to feel like they are not bowing to women while also being as proactive/productive as possible in getting women. It fills two emotional needs at once even though they contradict each other.
You can be proactive in getting women without bowing down to them. Seeing the two as inseparable is exactly what leads men to prostrate while interpreting their behavior as a mode of “taking action.”
“Doing whatever it takes to get them?” Since when has this been apart of game? Have you ever heard me tell someone “Do whatever it takes to get her”
The other miscellaneous points concern the idea of “being yourself” and how men are naturally supposed to be able to attract women. Unfortunately, the logical coherency of this argument still makes it hard to ignore all the herbs in the world. If you DON’T think some men have a harder time attracting women than others, you should work on obtaining a firm grasp of the obvious and THEN come back to reading game.
Post #3: PUA methods create little attraction if at all
PUA methods at best create a variety of delivery paths for your personality, which can bring out your personality more. But it’s like training wheels, basically, and that’s assuming it doesn’t fuck you up in the process, which it usually does.
I’ve already said this myself. The author is confusing the industrialization of game with the actual substance behind it. That’s exactly what “PUA methods” are meant to do; serve as a vehicle for your personality. They aren’t meant to be anything more than training wheels. It should supplement and refine your personality, not replace it.
Furthermore, I also made a habit of observing other guys who appeared socially proofed. For example, maybe they were with their hot girl friends or appeared very social and outgoing. I still didn’t see them receive significantly more attention from other women than the guy who is just standing in a corner by himself.
This doesn’t make any sense. There’s one guy talking to his hot girlfriend and another standing in a corner by himself and you can’t see the difference between which one is getting more attention from women?
The amount of social proof the author recounts in his own experience is inconsequential. Being seeing making out with one girl barely has any effect on your social proof. Being the leader of a group or having a career you’re proud of is vastly incomparable.
And social proof… insignificant… really? You don’t think famous men are able to get more pussy than your average PUA?
I was going to go over more blog posts but this stuff just seems retarded now.
For instance, one of the comments:
I agree with this. I mean, if you are confident with yourself and comfortable, why do you need a “wing woman” or other crutch?
How many times have you seen me post about having a wing woman vs being confident in yourself?
These people are misinterpreting the purpose of Game, as do most PUAs. I can’t blame the author because I share in his distaste for many aspects of the PUA community; but I do think “alternative PUA blogs” like these can do more harm than good by criticizing the entire scope of self-improvement.