Update on Site: Some of you were worried that I was kidnapped and cannibalized by feminists, others thought SMGP finally succumbed to the infinite power of the Matrix. To allay all doubts, the site was down for a couple of days for technical reasons. As many of you pointed out, the site was sagging behind in loading speed, some of the links were redirecting back to other pages (I don’t know if that got fixed), the feed was messed up, and a few other minor but annoying problems. I nuked the site and remade it hopefully solving many of these issues. Any other suggestions are welcome. Still have to fix a couple of things, restore some posts, but everything seems fine now. I’ll get to the accumulated comments tomorrow.
A question posited universally and repeatedly around the manosphere regards the apparent lack of secks in Long Term Relationships. The quick answer is always — jack off or dump her; but I think it would help to discern why the cock to kooch pastime tends to decline in frequency and turn prosaic as times passes. The answer “she just doesn’t want to have secks with YOU” is common, and while very apt, fails in explaining WHY a girl’s interest in secks declines so often, many times even in suitable relationships. Every game book you read always says, “you can’t imagine how secksual girls can be,” so then WHY aren’t they consistently crusading for cock all the time like you are?
The answer is translucently simple. A man increases his biological payoff by having secks as many times as he can. He achieves his “maximum” by impregnating as many women as he possibly can throughout the span of his life. A woman, can THEORETICALLY achieve her “maximum” by having secks only 10 or 15 times, assuming she gets pregnant every single time. The only hitch being; each time MUST be with whatever male has the most superior genes around her vicinity — the Alpha Male. She can only get pregnant a certain number of times, there is no additional payoff from having secks beyond that.
This is why male secksuality differs so much from female secksuality. A girl finds a guy that she LIKES, someone who pushes her button, and suddenly she’s insanely turned on. Within that context, she might desire secks just as much or even MORE than a guy.
A guy… is always horny. He sees a hot girl, he wants her. He sees another girl, he wants her too. He sees his girlfriend, he wants her…maybe a bit less.
So, what happens when a guy is in a relationship? Variety is lacking, his genes and his subconscious wiring is pushing him to seek DIFFERENT women. Hence you have cheating under physical impulse.
What happens when a GIRL is in an LTR? She doesn’t NEED to keep having secks consistently over and over again the way her boyfriend does. She might get turned on under specific circumstances, a candlelight dinner, a massage, but the average girl will NOT desire secks as frequently or as spontaneously as you will. Even the exceptional nymph will find her whisker biscuits less demanding as time passes (not counting the extreme exceptions with libidos that could match steroid users). The Alpha whose genes she desires is ALWAYS THERE, she doesn’t need to have secks 4 times a day… she won’t get pregnant more than once every 9 months.
So what happens at this point? The secksual dynamic of a relationship begins to change. It will either become,
A. She uses secks to reinforce good behavior. Every time you pass a compliance test, she obliges by spreading her pastrami flaps.
B. She uses secks to reinforce the RELATIONSHIP. Competitive anxiety has her bounded, she feels like without keeping you satisfied to a certain extent that she might lose you to the invisible hands of the secksual market.
Guess which one will guarantee you years of bountiful access to the fish canyon.
It is INTEGRAL that you keep your relationship skidding towards (B) and NOT (A). The common conception of pressuring a girl into secks is bullshit — it’s GOOD for your relationship for a girl to feel pressured into it. It’s BAD if she feels like secks is a chore. It’s GOOD if she’s nervously thinking “am I pleasuring him enough?” It’s BAD if she’s rationally thinking “I guess we should have secks now since we haven’t in a week.” As Machiavellian as it sounds, it’s true, and it works BOTH ways. For a relationship to work, the girl must use secks to reinforce affection, and a guy must use affection to reinforce secks. If either person is too needy or feels like they can get enough of what they want WITHOUT compromising, the relationship begins to turn imbalanced.