There are three variations of the break up, each with its unique protocol and different standards of etiquette. This will teach you how to maximize your strategic position in each one (Yes, love is war).
(A) The complete in-difference break up. Your girlfriend no longer cares for your existence, her feelings for you are similar to her feelings for her goldfish. From her point of view, your attempts at rekindling romance are akin to the gesticulations of a giant insect. There is nothing to salvage here beyond your dignity. The cause is hopeless; your presence results in vaginal desiccation.
The best way to part? No response. If the break up happens through texting or an instant message, sign off and let her never hear from you again. If it’s face to face, a few words like “I understand, good luck with everything” and an au revoir is all that’s needed. Don’t inflate her importance in your life, whether through negative or positive emotions. Make as little of a deal over it as possible and move on.
To play it to your advantage, IMMEDIATLEY begin approaching new girls, and establish new goals for yourself. Because you were JUST in a relationship, you will have preceding social proof + a natural aloofness from heartbreak. The longer you wait, the more these advantages are nulled. And because you can use thoughts of revenge and jealousy to fuel your determination, you can execute your goals with more audacity than ever before.
There are obviously less extreme strains of disinterest that could cause a girl to break-up with you. You see, girls usually don’t break up with a guy AS SOON as their interest level drops below 50% (unless they have a plethora of better options). Instead, they will drag you, kicking and screaming, to the lowest possible anti-zenith, and THEN break up with you. But before that point, there may come a series of false transitory break-ups; usually following a period of beta-backsliding. Here you need to focus SOLELY on attraction (being less available, more mysterious, having another girl like you, etc). Revert BACK to the guy she fell in love with, not the ball-licking pansy you’re acting like right now.
(B) The unsure break up: The LOGICAL part of her brain is telling her to break up with you. You’ve been acting like too much of an asshole, maybe you cheated, made her feel too inadequate, or for some other practical reason.
First, don’t backpedal. The problem here is built in a paradox. Guys always fuck up in this situation because they try and recover rapport TOO QUICKLY. It only breaks attraction which makes it EASIER for her to rationalize the break up. If you apologize a thousand times and tell her you “didn’t know what you had till you lost it,” you give her too much hand. For a girl, a break-up is infinitely easier to deal with if she has self-affirmation. She WANTS you to miss her, to be broken, to feel like you can’t live without her. It will bother her if you’re confidently moving on with your life. And if you GIVE her that pleasure of knowing you have been broken, she will be satisfied and it will be unnecessary to come back to you
Whoever retains the power position in a break up (whoever cares LESS) will ALWAYS find it easier to deal with the break up.
Second, PRESERVE rapport while making the changes outlined here. Give her 3 to 6 weeks to miss you, use jealousy, and then BLAM; meet up with her randomly one day and hit her with “you’re stupid, I always loved you,” and then walk away for another week. This type of intense vacillation between dubious pretenses + ultra love is the type of roller coaster she needs to go through. And beneath it all must be the looming threat that you’re moving further and further from her grip. The FEAR OF LOSS MUST BE THERE, OR THERE WILL BE NOTHING TO DRIVE YOU BACK TOGETHER.
(C) The shit-test break up: She’s doing this to assess your Alphaness. This is the only situation where you really need to come out with guns blazing and take a giant pseudo shit on her universe. The poon obeys the penis, no other dynamic works. You have to go no contact + jealousy + social proof HARD as fuck. If she says “I want a break,” you must be seen by the paparazzi on a date with another girl within the next hour. Or make a blatantly undeniable move on her best friend. Make sure it gets back to her. React with genuine positivity.
The problem here is that shit tests, while inevitable, can go too far. And this is one of those instances where it has gone too far. If she isn’t afraid of losing you the minute she has “officially” broken up with you, your relationship needs to be defibrillated. This shit test feeds off of her doubt that you can move away past her, or that you can find someone else. So naturally, you have a duty to purge her of such blasphemous ideas.