Shaming
What strikes me as both perplexing and unusually disturbing is that despite the apparent “awareness” of The Matrix — men will voluntarily play a part in its various methods of socialization. Even men who proclaim themselves as “unplugged,” and obviously knowledgeable about game are completely in the dark, whether for stupidity or complacency, over the more minute and suffocating expressions of feminine ideology. As the fight against a delusional multitude is morphing into a global liberation front; it’s becoming important to point this shit out.
The latent function of feminist shaming language is to manipulate, normalize, and discipline a population through the use of a certain discourse that actively distorts reality in favor of a specific ideology. The ostentatious forms of this biopolitics are obvious to us, but the more insidious, and far more dangerous forms are NOT. I see it not only in the conversations I have and in the forums / comments I read, but also in my OWN writing. So in-fucking-conceivably cemented is FSL within our vernacular that I, despite KNOWING that it’s in my writing, cannot clearly point out examples of it. The best I can do is point out the semi-apparent examples I see in other people’s writings.
One of my favorites: “You shouldn’t play games, be a man about it.”
I’ll see someone arguing about how you should use jealousy or NLP in a relationship, and then another guy come in and demonize the idea by turning it into a FEMININE CONCEPT, by saying this. It’s difficult to grasp how differently this idea can be interpreted. For instance, when I say “don’t play games” what I mean is DON’T OVER ANALYZE THINGS. But the way the phrase gets diffused across our language, it becomes:
“She broke up with you but you want her back? Don’t play games, just call her and tell her how much you want her back.”
“She’s flirting with other guys? Don’t play games, tell her how it’s bothering you and how it’s wrong”
“She’s losing interest? Don’t play games to increase how much she likes you, just tell her how you feel.”
It doesn’t work. Despite all our good intentions, these phrases are FAR TOO FUCKING associated with the feminine imperative. We MUST, MUST, MUST limit our usage of them. They have becomes tools to vilify masculinity by reinforcing notions of shame.
If a man has the ability to convince other people to do things, he is called three things. Most of the time, manipulative.
But if he does it covertly, it’s called being charming.
If he does it overtly but has enough social proof, it’s called being cunning.
Rhetoric = Reality.
No more apparent is it when I find myself TAKING A ROLE IN ITS PROPGATION, and then having to justify it to avoid the obvious contradiction. I’ve posted multiple times on how we should avoid labels like “Alpha,” “jerk,” and “nice guy,” but I use them myself don’t I? For purposes of simplicity and ease of use, I must. But the use of these words is the type of overtly masculine language all too easily gutted by The Matrix. A girl says “why are you trying to be an Alpha Male?” and you get that beta-twisting feeling that the jig is up. Without the rock solid state control that comes with experience and total confidence, you would melt.
The interesting thing about feminine shaming language is that it attempts to use masculinity against itself. You’ll hear “are you too scared to tell your girlfriend how you feel” or “sack up and commit to her.” Ironically the same type of language gets used by the manosphere itself, for the exact opposite purpose, to STOP the emasculation of men. It’s like The Matrix KNOWS the language we use, and then uses the same language to confuse us into chasing its own goals (which it probably does…)
There is only one way to control the symptoms. When a girl calls you out for anything, don’t let it affect you. When a guy tries to troll on your input somewhere, don’t react with hostility. Shame is a good quality to have when it applies in a balanced way; but the totalizing sense of shame siphoning our society is now limiting freedom, curiosity, and progress.
“What do you consider the most humane? – To spare someone shame. What is the seal of liberation? – To no longer be ashamed in front of oneself.”
-Nietzsche
How do i build rapport in a relationship without seeming desperate ,because this is a big issue with me since im too focused on increasing attraction which in most cases is always high and i lost a lot of greate girls because of this and i mean a lot. I “fear” coming off as desperate. And girls always think im making fun of them when i give them compliments.
I thank you in advance.
Cool bro….. need more motivation
It is actually disgusting that the concept of ‘being a man’ has been so badly corrupted in society. Even in my english class, this [wannabe] feminist calls hamlet a wuss for ‘not talking about his emotions’ – and yet when I point out that were he to express his emotions he would be showing a lack of control and thus emasculating himself, she spews bullshit and contradicts herself without admitting she’s wrong. (I poke her ego for entertainment purposes now)
And another thing I find is that chumps who get girlfriends become self-entitled and start spewing the ‘you have to treat your girlfriend like a princess’ ‘pay for everything unless ur cheap’ bullshit and due to the masses of insecure guys in society people actually take it in and believe it. Meanwhile I count down the minutes until they get dumped and cry themselves to sleep listening to coldplay.
I literally want to give the link to this website to everyone i know, but the thing is it won’t help – purely because you need to WANT to be helped in order to BE helped – and most people would rather deny the truth and continue living out the same pathetic life than attempt to understand that their perception of life is blurred; I’ve tried spreading the word in small doses, to little or no avail.
My explanation of game to a girl recently, which i initially thought had opened her eyes, turned out to be a huge failure. That was an eye opener.
I truly believe now that the crux of being an ‘Alpha male’ (i fucking hate the term too, but hey) is the ability to live life without feeling the need to qualify ANYTHING you do.
I wear these trainers because i like these trainers.
I called her a fat bitch because she’s a fat bitch.
I like that girl because she’s fucking sexy.
I eat meat because meat is tasty.
I let her pay because this isnt the fucking 1940′s anymore.
I hate my cynicism; I hate that I see the world and human interaction through a microscope; but I have to love it, because I’d have that any day over viewing the world through glasses covered in horse-shit.
Keep spreadin the word of Shark. i’ll keep reading, learning, questioning, testing… and sighing.
Shark,
I truly believe that spoken language belongs ONLY to the matrix (I suggest using lower case). There is no other logical conclusion. Other than basic communication there is really no reason for a male to have to speak aloud, unless it’s to GIVE ORDERS. When I think of every time I’ve been told, “We need to talk…(I need to tell you things you’re doing wrong)” or every conversation where I’ve been shamed/tricked into “tell me how you feel” I’m filled with disgust.
So what is the answer to a woman begging you to “open up” or bratting out for “attention”.
The answer is STONE COLD SILENCE.
I was reading an article on parenting that advised when your child is having a temper tantrum you should ignore the behaviour, but stay in the vicinity of the child. I’ve applied the same principal to tantrums from my girlfriend to great effect as well now. She’s learning….only the difference is if/when she really flips out I WILL LEAVE THE AREA. That flabberphucks her right up.
You may want to take a look at this Article about the ‘Stone Cold Silence’ you talk about. Interesting idea to be fair:
http://yohami.com/blog/2012/02/10/the-good-the-bad-and-the-ugly/
Your Royal Sharkness,
My cupboard is full of herbs and spices they come in shakers and all the shakers have labels so I know what’s in them. They look slightly different without the labels, sure, but without the labels I might put poultry seasoning on a steak. Or I might douse my hot wings in soy sauce. The potential for such disasters is limited by those labels.
Words, words are just labels for people and ideas and activities. Words are subjective to the perceptions and associations of the people using and hearing them. It’s not the words that are tainted , it’s the perception of those words. And the sliver of society currently represented by your loyal finbase is simply not enough to drench the nation in a tsunami of social enlightenment. Nor , would it suit us to bear such aspirations.
The Jedi order is a small and selective group for good reasons. Few are qualified, even fewer possess the self-determination and mental acuity , still others lack the moral restraint to begin training. If our little resistance movement were to wake all the coppertops at once; Nietzsche himself would shudder in apprehension.
As the Matrix still imprisons the minds of many , it also provides us a place to meet and conspire against it , right underneath it’s very nose. In a chicken and egg kind of way , we can no longer exist without each other.
” If a man has the ability to convince other people to do things, he is called three things. Most of the time, manipulative. ”
And I am comfortable with that. We put the MAN in manipulative. We do not flinch and we fear not the shaming of feminist , who mount us like cowgirls until they bark like happy seals.
Such is our lot .. I wouldn’t trade it.
Happy hunting.
Dauntless
Hey Shark, I recently came across this rant on FB from one of my close girl friends, care to take a crack at it?
Just a few thoughts for the day…
1) I’m confused as to why girls (and guys, I guess) jump from one relationship to the next. Are you that desperate for attention that you constantly need a significant other in your life? Are you that unhappy? FYI – You will not find happiness with another until you can find happiness with yourself.
2) Why do people continually allow their ex’s to come back into their life when they’ve either a) cheated multiple times and/or b) lied multiple times and/or c) never treated you the way you deserved to be treated? Sorry to break it to you, but he/she is never going to change, EVEN if they know all the right words to say and try to convince you otherwise. And as much as you want to be the one that changes them, you’re not going to be. That’s a fact.
3) If a guy is consistently blaming you for things you never did/never would do, or if he’s always jealous for no reason at all… he’s PROBABLY acting that way because HE is actually the one to blame and is secretly doing shady things behind your back.
4) Girls – please stop being so insecure and wearing the tightest/shortest skirt or dress with 6 inch heels and no nylons when it’s 20 degrees outside and snowing. Also, please stop caking make up on your face. Embrace your natural side – it’s far more attractive.
5) Guys – you constantly complain that all girls are sluts, but yet none of you ever own up to the fact that you, yourselves are sluts as well. Calling a girl a slut but then fucking her anyway is quite repulsive in my eyes. Are YOU that desperate?