What strikes me as both perplexing and unusually disturbing is that despite the apparent “awareness” of The Matrix — men will voluntarily play a part in its various methods of socialization. Even men who proclaim themselves as “unplugged,” and obviously knowledgeable about game are completely in the dark, whether for stupidity or complacency, over the more minute and suffocating expressions of feminine ideology. As the fight against a delusional multitude is morphing into a global liberation front; it’s becoming important to point this shit out.
The latent function of feminist shaming language is to manipulate, normalize, and discipline a population through the use of a certain discourse that actively distorts reality in favor of a specific ideology. The ostentatious forms of this biopolitics are obvious to us, but the more insidious, and far more dangerous forms are NOT. I see it not only in the conversations I have and in the forums / comments I read, but also in my OWN writing. So in-fucking-conceivably cemented is FSL within our vernacular that I, despite KNOWING that it’s in my writing, cannot clearly point out examples of it. The best I can do is point out the semi-apparent examples I see in other people’s writings.
One of my favorites: “You shouldn’t play games, be a man about it.”
I’ll see someone arguing about how you should use jealousy or NLP in a relationship, and then another guy come in and demonize the idea by turning it into a FEMININE CONCEPT, by saying this. It’s difficult to grasp how differently this idea can be interpreted. For instance, when I say “don’t play games” what I mean is DON’T OVER ANALYZE THINGS. But the way the phrase gets diffused across our language, it becomes:
“She broke up with you but you want her back? Don’t play games, just call her and tell her how much you want her back.”
“She’s flirting with other guys? Don’t play games, tell her how it’s bothering you and how it’s wrong”
“She’s losing interest? Don’t play games to increase how much she likes you, just tell her how you feel.”
It doesn’t work. Despite all our good intentions, these phrases are FAR TOO FUCKING associated with the feminine imperative. We MUST, MUST, MUST limit our usage of them. They have becomes tools to vilify masculinity by reinforcing notions of shame.
If a man has the ability to convince other people to do things, he is called three things. Most of the time, manipulative.
But if he does it covertly, it’s called being charming.
If he does it overtly but has enough social proof, it’s called being cunning.
Rhetoric = Reality.
No more apparent is it when I find myself TAKING A ROLE IN ITS PROPGATION, and then having to justify it to avoid the obvious contradiction. I’ve posted multiple times on how we should avoid labels like “Alpha,” “jerk,” and “nice guy,” but I use them myself don’t I? For purposes of simplicity and ease of use, I must. But the use of these words is the type of overtly masculine language all too easily gutted by The Matrix. A girl says “why are you trying to be an Alpha Male?” and you get that beta-twisting feeling that the jig is up. Without the rock solid state control that comes with experience and total confidence, you would melt.
The interesting thing about feminine shaming language is that it attempts to use masculinity against itself. You’ll hear “are you too scared to tell your girlfriend how you feel” or “sack up and commit to her.” Ironically the same type of language gets used by the manosphere itself, for the exact opposite purpose, to STOP the emasculation of men. It’s like The Matrix KNOWS the language we use, and then uses the same language to confuse us into chasing its own goals (which it probably does…)
There is only one way to control the symptoms. When a girl calls you out for anything, don’t let it affect you. When a guy tries to troll on your input somewhere, don’t react with hostility. Shame is a good quality to have when it applies in a balanced way; but the totalizing sense of shame siphoning our society is now limiting freedom, curiosity, and progress.
“What do you consider the most humane? – To spare someone shame. What is the seal of liberation? – To no longer be ashamed in front of oneself.”