Dude. You saved me. Here I am, in a good and 2 months new relationship with a new guy and yet I am not ENTIERLY over my ex bf. Even if he also, just recently, have gone to another girl, I still sort of can not let him go with all my heart (even if I do like my current VERY VERY VERY MUCH). I found my confussed feelings very very annyoing and in the way of focusing on the now, and by finding this article, I could make much more sence out of what I thoight wad mental at first. Now I mifht find a solution to the problem, now when I know the cause. Thank you! An please, If you know any sulotion to this feeling problem, put that up to if you have the possibility. Thank you x 1000!<3
Anyone still in the loop about Monika Lewinsky will recall that a couple of months ago she revealed in an interview that she was STILL in love with Bill Clinton; despite their affair constituting only a handful of blowjobs. She’s slept with other men, dated other men, but it’s just not the same. The reason is simple. As illustrated thoroughly in this post, it’s because women are hypergamous. A wolfishly Alpha Ex like Clinton can leave an imprint so fucking profound; a girl will carry his template for her entire life. Assaulting Maleitis (female version of Oneitis) requires a few crucial steps, and can be different compared to the way a guy would go about it.
1. A Guy needs to find a new girl, just as hot or hotter. A girl needs to find a new guy, just as Alpha, or more Alpha. The second part of this rule is always the part that’s forgotten. Why do rebounds never work? Because they always fall short of what you had before. There WILL be feelings for your new partner, you WILL invest in them, but it’s just NOT the same. The Id monster will eventually surface, and when it does, you stand no chance. This is particularly true when it comes to girls, because of the way they’re biologically wired. The impact of mating with a man LESS worthy (which means less reproductive value a la biomechanics) = babies with inferior genes. And because a girl’s biological payout caps out at 10-20, the implications are FAR MORE VAST. A guy’s hindbrain does not perceive the difference. Even if his new girlfriend is slightly uglier, his brain is thinking, “I can just mate with both of them.” Women subconsciously understand that a less than stellar ex means PERMENANT damage control; she must choose between one man’s genes or another, she cannot have BOTH the way a guy can. While monogamy changes this via our social structure, it does not change the way our brain has been functioning for the past 100,000+ years. A girl’s hamster KNOWS that she is essentially choosing between her ex and her current boyfriend in terms of whose sperm will impregnate her ONE egg. If it thinks she might have “downgraded,” the conscience result is a mix of confused feelings.
*We reduce the debate to only “looks” and “Alphaness” for the sake of simplicity. While these are the primary factors at play, they are obviously not the only ones.
2. Visualize your ex as a loser. This is when the disadvantages / advantages of the two sexes become clear. Men are polygamous, Oneitis comes about from the psychological attachment they have with a girl + the implicit understanding that another guy can now boff your ex and steal your legacy. So post-break up, a guy can remain enamored by his ex despite fucking other girls. If he is deeply emotionally vested in her, only an effort par excellence of his will can help him get over her. For a girl on the other hand, emotional investment can be reduced to a triviality. If a girl is NOT attracted to her ex, it’s game over. He is desexualized, she sees him as nothing more than a friend. She might LOVE him, but she is not IN love with him. Whatever special cute moments or inside jokes they had in the past are irrelevant. A girl out of love is a girl out of love. But WITH this awesome ability to truncate exes at the drop of a pin, comes the opposite extreme. A girl who still sees her ex in that luminous Alpha aura will find it nearly impossible to ever remove him from her mind. Hence it becomes necessary to start CONSCIOUSLY stripping him of that aura. Logic won’t help, as a girl, you need to ENTICE emotions of boredom. Start seeing your ex as a chump you’d rather not be with. Make yourself remember all the times when he acted like a loser, all his failures with other women (hopefully he has some).
3. Don’t become a slut. I don’t mean this from a moral angle; ethics are left out in this blog. But in the same way that a guy only remembers the tightness of his ex if he fucks a fat toad afterwards, a girl will only remember the perfections of her ex if she sleeps with a series of losers afterwards. By all means, find another guy and enjoy your time with him, but don’t settle for less. Find a guy willing to be an emotional tampon, and use him for ONLY that. Don’t force yourself into seeing him as a surrogate boyfriend, or you WILL come to regret it.
And a final notable difference: why aren’t girl’s advised to “go out there an take over the world?” It’s not because they are incapable of it, it’s because it just doesn’t pay off as much. A guy who reignites his passions is doing it ultimately FOR ANOTHER GIRL, albeit an unrealized one. No matter what, just as Freud said, every man’s will to power is intimately connected with his reproductive value. We conquer countries, businesses, politics, sports; all because of this underlying secksual tension. The hidden assumption that by working hard, we will accumulate more secks, power, and knowledge. For women, that ultimate goal of “FOR ANOTHER GUY” is only realized WHEN that guy appears, and WHEN they are able to emotionally calibrate with him. A girl cannot increase her chances of bagging that future Alpha by being CEO of her own company or passionately chasing her hobbies, a guy CAN. Her ambitions are indulged in for their ability to distract her, but they do not directly effect her ability to attract another guy better than her ex. A guy on the other hand, subconsciously understands “this will NOT ONLY distract me, but also increase my chances of finding someone better.”
P.S Since you’re already in a relationship, I suggest that you inconspicuously pass on this website to your boyfriend. Sure he might be mind fucked and incapable of thinking straight for a few days, but in the end, it’ll be worth it. What you need is for him to ram you against a wall and fornicate till the memories of your ex seep out of your corpse in one all-consuming, life-affirming orgasm. Such a proposition is only possible if he has titanium balls, and I just so happen to do titanium-balls-induction-surgery free of charge right here on this blog.