I have often censured mainstream relationship advice through various posts, but most of that blasting is exclusively directed to feminized advice written by, well, women. For two reasons; first, all advice from women ASSUMES attraction, you will never read a column by a girl that says “yah… ignore a couple of texts or make her jealous here and there” but you WILL find a library of details on how to “communicate” with your girl. Second, women themselves are obfuscated by their own dual desires, why would they be any better at interpreting yours?
Nothing more need be said about that school of thought. But how about articles by mainstream love gurus, actual “certified” ones like Doc Love? I’ve spent the last hour surfing through the more recent posts on Ask Men. I have created then, nothing less than an absolutely cynical-as-fuck criticism of Doc Love’s advice
Don’t get me wrong; Doc Love is doing the world a HUGE favor. Better to have AFCs semi-aware of woman’s natures than a bunch of sympathetic betas beguiled by their market rivals. The link to the article is below, for those who wish to read along, but I’ve quoted or summarized most of the important parts.
Article: Her ex is texting
The beauty of “The System” is that whether you just want to casually date and practice until you master all of its precepts or you find a “keeper” and want to make a relationship permanent, everything you need is contained in its pages.
Just can’t get advice from you without at-least a bit of preening can you? Your product is good Doc Love, but nothing revolutionary. In fact, you can find a summary of everything important on Wikipedia. Fuck, even The Black Flag is unnecessary, you can find most of that shit by doing a deep dive through the archives of this blog and reading a couple of articles online on social darwinism, body language, and bio-mechanics. The truth is, everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, every ounce of knowledge related to game, can be found for free. Nothing I say is profound or new. All you need is a bit of dedication to study the material, a willingness to THINK about it’s implications on your own, and then to APPLY it in-field or in your relationship. The third step is the most important. “The gap between ignorance and knowledge is smaller than the gap between knowledge and action.”
But what is annoying is that Kristara felt compelled to tell you in the first place all about this test message. Like my cousin Sal “The Fish” Love says, “This is where some women are stupid.” Why didn’t she just delete the message and not even mention it to you? Did she think it was going to raise your Interest Level? Well, it didn’t. Lots of women like to talk about their exes when their exes take a hit at them, and it’s not smart and it’s not good. All blabbing about her ex does is make the new guy — you — feel uncomfortable.
A very visible sequence of problems with this analyses.
Your cousin who happens to be a fish, he’s an idiot. Women are compelled to mention their exes for very evolutionarily potent reasons. Shit testing is apart of being women, the instinct cannot be quenched.
The PROBLEM with giving men advice like this, is that they ALSO think “wtf, my girlfriend is stupid.” And rather than reaching a peaceful enlightenment where master game fluidly governs their actions, you have instead a legion of resentful betas who hate their girlfriends for doing “stupid things” like mentioning their exes or flirting with guys. These things seem stupid to men because it makes us “insecure” – but that’s EXACTLY the point. Your girlfriend WANTS to flush out your insecurities, to make you a bit more jealous and committed, to elicit an emotional response from you, and to see if she can break you or rattle with your frame.
So did Kristara think her boyfriend was going to fall in love by mentioning this ex thing? No. She just wanted to see if she could fucks with him. And did she win? Well… he e-mailed a love guru for advice for the topic. So yes, the balls are on her court. Both of his tiny wishy washy beta balls.
If you find yourself so shaken up by a relationship or a girl that you need to seek advice for it, you are subconsciously conceding power. While this is viable during your transition into Alphadom, it is a habit you must eventually eradicate. In transit to Jedi Game, you want to start asking more analytical questions and about things that could have been handled BETTER.
“This was my opening, how could it have been improved?” or “This is how I handled her, what were some flaws in my approach?”
“WTFFF DO I DOO??!?! AHHHH” or “AHHH WOMEN ARE SUCH MYSTERIES”
My final take on this article is one of frustrated acceptance. The action advised in the end is good, but it seems that mainstream relationship advice is confined by the very FACT that it is mainstream relationship advice. Will you ever see a guy on AskMen preaching about how the natural position of women is one of submission? Probably not.
Doc love says “whatever you do, don’t tell her what to do,” which is on par with what I would’ve advised. But he ignores the root of the reader’s problem, an issue made clearly evident by the reader’s perception of exes.
“Exes always mess things up.”
Guys fall into two categories:
Exes who get desexualized quickly vs Exes who always mess shit up for future relationships because they’ve carved out VERY deep impressions on their girlfriends (beta vs Alpha)
Boyfriends who are constantly shaken up by past lovers vs Boyfriends who make their girlfriends forget every past lover they ever had (beta vs Alpha).
See a trend? If this guy has consistently had problems regarding his girlfriends exes, teaching him how to handle “the ex texting” is ibuprofen for his overall AFC personality. What he needs to do is sack the fuck up, give his woman a mind warping orgasm, start hitting the gym, and recite a world domination mantra every morning when he wakes up.
The problem is not with the ex. The problem is that his balls are afraid of heights.