I wanted to collectively address a number of questions regarding “understanding your girlfriend.” Many people have asked, “how do you actually tell whether her shit tests are out of resentment or a natural need to assess your performance under pressure?” or “how can you tell if you should brush off her plea for attention vs. actually give attention to an issue that must be resolved?” and of course “how can you tell if your girlfriend is cheating on you?” There is no definitive answer to any of these, but studying a few specific criterions can greatly improve your chances of not getting shit twisted.
So for instance, you’ll want to pay great attention to your SECKSUAL RELATIONSHIP with her. To demonstrate:
If she’s shit testing you considerably enough, but you guys are banging each other’s brains out every day; the shit tests are not coming from a place of resentment
If she’s shit testing you, being whiny, and secks is on the DECLINE, you need more attraction.
If the relationship is too lopsided in your favor, she may attempt to rebalance it by holding out on secks. Here you’ll have to be exceptionally exact in reading her. Does she WANT secks, but is holding out on it in a desperate attempt to make you beg for a pussy handout; or does she NOT want secks, and is holding out on it passively just because she isn’t as interested in you?
How passionate is she DURING secks, and how much attention does she pay to your pleasure versus hers. Big indicator: a girl interested will occasionally ask “are you sure it’s good?” when you’re using a condom, a girl not as interested, or only using you for vagina itch care, will only care about her side of the pleasure spectrum.
When you first start dating a girl, if you are NOT in the dominant position, you will see much more last minute resistance. LMR occurs when her hamster isn’t sure if the investment in you is worth it, and is absent in the presence of enough game. On occasion you will see LMR when your game is TOO tight (or if you’re playing up c/f too much), in which case she is wondering whether you’ll judge her or if this is worth the risk that you’ll shaft her right after.
Penis in vagina is much more of an accurate measure of a girl’s interest than smileys in texts, phone conversations, and other forms of affection. The reason is simple, the male/female dynamic. Women use secks to get relationships, men use relationships to get secks (at least this is how it’s SUPPOSED to play out). If she is NOT putting out, she is subconsciously assuming she can get enough affection from you while saving her intimacy for a more worthy man. As a corollary to this assumption, remember that women assume a man who has ENOUGH reproductive value for them to sleep with, would not give them enough attention WITHOUT secks because he has too many other options and/or obligations.
If you’re having mind blowing secks consistently and her attraction for you is obviously high, yet she is shit testing you A LOT, especially around other people, you might be facing a rare aggressive form of shit testing that occurs when a woman feels her secksual market value has been threatened. If a girl is in a relationship with a guy and everyone PERCIEVES him to have much more value than her, she will try and put him down, especially in front of other people, to equilibrate her value with his. DO NOT “call her out” on said shit tests, that only signals to her that she was able to get an emotional reaction out of you, which implicates LOWER value on your part because only if the both of you were on EQUAL footing in the first place would she be able to affect you in a visible way. Savy?
Focus on secks over PERIODS, not short bursts of affection unless they result from ATTRACTION. To explain, sometimes your girlfriend will have secks with you, even good secks, after you’ve FAILED a shit test or while she’s drunk. You may have apologized and told her how much you loved her, and she may have rewarded you with a blow-job. But if you allow secks to subsist on “good behavior,” you’re fucked. Be careful so as not to encourage a reward dynamic when it comes to secks. You guys have secks because both of you want to have secks. A secks/reward system is essentially the same thing as a push/pull system in game; just inverted in favor of the girl. Rather than you going no contact to soft next her; she goes no secks to soft next you.
If you think she’s cheating on you, check to see if she wants to have secks with you while she’s ovulating. Seriously. An accurate gauge of her secksual interest is just as valuable, and far less expensive, than a lie detector test.