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On April 16, 2012 by Shark

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3o0y85reK9A&feature=related “women say the daRnest things” unfortunately this bitch doesnt know how to shut the fuck up.

shark say something, spank this bitch

 

If it was in my power, I’d smite em all.

Jk, her advice isn’t all that bad, at least for the first 43 seconds I saw. The 4 phases do coincide to what most people go through. My real problem with the video is two fold. First, the idea is not as extensible as she makes it out to be. I see no point in stretching it out into a 9 minute monologue, albeit one absolutely fuckin painful to watch. If the rest of the video is as uncharismatic and disheveled as the short segment I saw, this video could compete with kingdom beta. And second, going through all 5 steps is not an absolute necessity. I find that if the cosmos is in my favor and I happen to meet a 9 a day after a break up (even a rough one) with an 8, it goes straight to step 5 and the rebound phase becomes more of an upgrade phase that conveniently blends in with the letting go phase.

Also, it would help if she was a tad better looking. Criticize me if you will, but the world is a shallow place. Better to take part in its hedonism than reject its sensations all together.

 

Hey Shark,

I’ve been reading your blog and have been trying to discover myself as a young adult male. I’m in second year university: after a break up and some academic failures some five months ago, I have been brought down to a depression and am still having a hard time coping with it — even though I’ve been working very hard on myself — I’m a voracious reader, I exercise, work hard, and am generally focused on improving myself as you recommend. Unfortunately, I still feel lonely, confused, anxious, a lack of courage and fear of the future. It has gotten to the point that I am self-loathing and enduring severe internal turmoil.

I never had a male-role model in my life after whom I can model myself so I’m having a very hard time developing myself. I don’t know how to make friends. I don’t know how to generally treat girls. I don’t know how to take a grip of my own life, and worst of all I can’t find a purpose for myself — everything just seems so mundane.

This is possibly a refection of an existential crisis that is possibly characteristic of my generation, Generation Y. There also seems to be a trend that young adults undergo nowadays called a ‘quarter-life crisis.’

Now, I’m unsure if you know anything about these subjects, but can you have a look at them and tell me what you think. Also, can you please write some posts on making friends, how to generally treat girls, and how to find a purpose for yourself?

I know this is a lot to ask but I have nowhere else to look.

Thanks,
Marcus

 

 

The things you are doing to improve yourself are better suited for the already positive minded. From my experience in a bottomless shit-session, reading or studying hard does nothing. That is step two, read the segment on being a visionary in this post. . Even exercising is a long-term opiate, your clouded mind cannot perceive the fruits of your labor in a way that can sear through its ennui. It might do your nerves good, but you won’t be forgetting life and its wonders in every pull-up and bench press. What you need is to re-awaken yourself through hyper-consciousness. A competitive sport, fucking a 9, getting punched in the face; something that makes you realize you’re alive and not just a statistic in the national census, not a number in your class average. By all means, continue improving yourself, but double your efforts in getting a girl, pick up a competitive activity, do something that makes you feel IN THE MOMENT, not just on a relative scale. I’d say secks with any girl above 8.5 on your scale should top your to do list.

You’re lucky not to have a male role model, most great men never did. Their personal role models were all fictional, super human masculine archetypes they found in books and movies. By relating to something other worldly, you yourself become otherworldly. By modeling yourself after another human, you only begin to reflect his humanism and all the flaws that come with it. A god complex relies on an uncompromisingly confident perception of yourself, you are perfect. If you idolize a living man, it would, by definition, hold you back.

How to treat girls is too vague of a question, you’ll find answers to it scattered throughout the archives. How to get friends is too fundamental of a question. All I can say is be social, be interesting, be interesTED.

Your quarter-life crisis is indeed a predictable result of living in the world you inhabit. The solution is simple, you say “fuck it” and get back to living life rather than analyzing it. No, there is no great answer or solution. Yes, you will die, your life will pass, no one will care. All we have is that next big endorphin rush, the thrill of chasing it, and the decline that follows.

 

why do chicks deactivat their fb ? attention seeking fucking whores

 

You would be mad that women are attention seeking? Why? It is the easiest of complexes to manipulate, to charm a women is simply to take attention away from her; to not want to charm her. If women weren’t attention seeking and to sleep with 10 women you had to treat all 10 with high regard instead of scarce injections of asshole game; life would be all the less merrier. If women lusted for an absence of affection rather than affection in its absence, we would not have time to conquer worlds and women simultaneously.

 

is Pierre Trudeau, Canada’s 15th prime minster, an Alpha?

 

Yes.

 

 

Paradoxical Playboy + Take over the world personality? Check.

Has secks with plenty of female companions, but still manages to work hard? Check.

Sees other people as weak-kneed, possible indicative of a god-complex? Check.

Sun glasses? Check.

“Well, just watch me” turned iconic the moment it left his mouth. Explicate, do not deliberate.

 

as always great stuff..

Know of any books/posts/articles on leadership by any chance?

Thanks

 

Posts and articles you’ll find throughout the inner game and Alpha section.

For books, take a look at the works of Gene Landrum.

 

 

Hi Shark,

There’s a few sticky situations involving girls and my friend circle that I’m not sure on how to resolve, and I haven’t seen much written about it before…so here they are:

1) Recently I found out one of my friends (lets call him George) has been actively pursuing my ex. Normally I would just let it go, but the thing is, George has often caused problems (them spending too much time together often instilled jealousy in my beta self) between my ex and I while we were together. I decided to ignore him for a while, then realized after stumbling across your site that it wasn’t worth it and a manly way to handle it, especially we all share a lot of good mutual friends, so I managed to patch things up with him.

After our breakup, most of my friends have been supportive of me, but George has instead been getting closer with my ex (between then and now she’s gone through a rebound as well)…and then this.

What’s a good way to handle this? I know you advocate indifference in most situations, but I feel really disrespected by this act. George knew how much I liked the girl and how annoyed I got…and he also met her through me.

2) Different social circle: I get along with one of the girls within the circle pretty well, usually I would be really busy so she often suggest to hang out. She’s very flirty with everyone, so I’m not sure if she actually has an interest in me. The correct thing to do is probably just man up and make a move, but if rejected, it would could things awkward for everyone…don’t shit where you eat?

 

 

(1) Indifference IS the answer, the argument that you don’t want to be indifferent because you feel disrespected subsumes the logic of the solution. If you are feeling disrespected, you are not indifferent to the situation. By saying you don’t want to be indifferent because you feel disrespected, you’re keeping yourself away from the answer and rationalizing your rejection of reality with the existence of an illusion; virtue.

As I’ve contended before, humans are 99% animals and 1% human. Your friend is following his instinct, what did you expect? Of course he’s going to be getting closer with your ex, this is the chance he’s been waiting on, some underground route to her pants. There’s nothing to do here, cut your losses and move on. If you don’t like that your girlfriend hangs out with a specific guy too much, you must dump her and find one that doesn’t hang out with a guy too much. No guy is going to forgo his chances at a girl he’s been chasing to spare the feelings of his friend, unless he has an abundance of other options, the girl isn’t hot enough, or he’s one of those extremely rare Super-friends that almost no one seems to have.

(2) As a general rule, secksualize your personality so you never run into this situation. With c/f and a known habit for debauchery, an attempt at a girl will never be seen as anything “awkward.” It will only make things awkward if it’s incongruent with your personality. If that’s the case, your problem is far more fundamental. You must be talking to and fucking other girls. People must see you and think “Yah, he has a dick, he’s gonna try and fuck that girl.”

Which brings us to a related point, making a move is a very subtle art. Remember you never tell a girl that you like her, you convey it. You should have a habit of always playfully escalating, it shouldn’t be seen as something INCONGRUENT. She shouldn’t think “Oh wtf… did he just try and kiss my neck?” It should be expected of you. And when it’s expected of you, you’ll begin to notice a shift in the way girls act towards you. They’ll make excuses to hang out with you for plausible deniability, they’ll crave for you to escalate like the psychotically aggressive man they dream of you being, they’ll fantasize about submitting to your dominant personality, and constantly shit-test you to check the authenticity of your personality. Women are secks starved in today’s society as they’ve always been. The only difference is, it’s finally more socially acceptable for them to have outlets. So shit, be an outlet.

And most women are flirtatious, it is an irrelevant factor unless you’re considering her as a potential girlfriend; in which case you need only gauge the degree of her promiscuity and determine if it’s something worth tolerating. But for fucking, it could only better your chances.

 

Always a satisfying read. Thanks.

Can you do a post on how to pick up girls for immediate sexual encounters, like a quickie in the bathroom while at work, or a f#ck in the bush behind the cafe type thing?

I’ve always heard stories, and don’t understand how to tell when a girl is horny enough to just bang you right then and there, and how to go about making that happen, cause I have a feeling that if she were, and you said or did ONE wrong thing, you’d automatically be labeled as a creep or have a rape whistle blown instead of your d*ck. How do you know when a girl is that sexually interested and horny then and there, or how do you go about initiating such a thing when you think or have a feeling that’s true? I know it happens. I just don’t know how or why it does. Or how do you simply do what the following relates:

I had a friend who was an artist, and apparently majestic with women, and told me of a time when he walked into a bar, it was empty save one attractive business woman, and he sat down, ordered a beer, she had her martini or whatever it was, he looked at her, and he said to me “I just knew”. He further explained that they both stood up without saying anything and walked to the restroom and f*cked, then walked back out and continued to drink respectively without saying a word to each other. Never seen her again. Doesn’t even know her name.

That’s brilliant. How? Do you have any similar experiences? This seems like a fantasy every girl has had or will have at some point. Or one that you could somehow put into their minds on the spot.

 

It’s not as uncommon as you think, most women have entire indexes of secksual fantasies, spontaneous secks ranks among the more normal ones.

 

 

It is only a principal of confidence. Girl sees guy. Guy is either thinking “We can fuck in 5 minutes” or “Is it possible to fuck in 5 minutes?” The latter = no pussy, or possibly a pussy raincheck if he slathers her in game, dates, and witty texts. The former = chance of petal parting. When cook says “beast mode,” he’s referring to being in-state while simultaneously having zero internal resistance; going up and trying to escalate while sustaining maximum non-verbal attraction (aggressive eye contact, smooth and controlled voice, open and powerful body language). In other words, imagine you lived in a time before language was invented, met a girl in a jungle, and was attracted to her. How would you approach? Apply that same technique, but this time in a club. Mentally strip all the extraneous details around you. It’s just you and a field of targets.

 

How do you game women who are used to authority, such as a boss, professor, or even CEO? More importantly, if she already sees you with lower value simply because of your lower position in the ladder, how do you alter her perception of you?

 

Her: “I out rank you Mr.______”
You: “And I’m such a slut for Power.”

It comes down to frame control. In the frame of the “work place,” she out ranks you, and thus, is “better” than you. Unless this difference can be reconciled, there will never be any attraction. But so long as you remain within the frame of the “work place,” which is the frame she is alluding to herself, only by beating her WITHIN THE CONTEXT OF THE FRAME can you win, i e; flipping job roles and out ranking her.

But if you can shift it to your own frame, one that sees work as “only work” and her titular authority as a cutesy extension of feminism trying to poke its head where it doesn’t belong, suddenly, her power becomes irrelevant. She is only of higher value than you if you concede to the context of her frame.

 

Dear Shark, lemme start of by saying your work is much appreciated. i found out about your blog through random googles and this blog came at an integral part of my life but i need an answer if you could..well i work with this girl that i use to be best friends with in high school. i was a super beta and put her on a pedestal. we were cool until i manned up that we couldnt be friends bc i liked her, but she only see me as a friend….fast forward a couple years of me not talking to her we start working together. she told me shed never see me as more than friend but now she always brings up how i never text her, how i dont see her, and shell keep making plans for us to hangout. whats that mean…like when she was drunk she wanted to take pictures and she wanted me to make one of us my profile picture. every other day shell make up an excuse to hangout. shes getting out of school in a couple f days “we should go to dinner and celebrate” titanic is coming out “we should see that together” im trying to learn to swim “you should practice in my pool” all this stuff.she always texts me first (i never text a girl first unless were just friends) i ignore her at work and cocky/funny the hell out of her in general, except for one time at a party where i was too drunk for the “funny” part and when asked if i liked her hair, proceded to point to girls who i thought had better hair that night. she called me a douchebag. the question is this: does she want a relationship with me or does she just want to be best friends with me again, or more plainly: does she see me as an alpha or miss the beta?

 

The answer is a bit of both. There are two reactions a girl can have when a beta orbiter suddenly withdraws attention. Either complete and utter indifference (she eventually acquires a new orbiter) or a sudden desire for the attention that was so swiftly stripped from her. In the latter scenario, which happens to be yours, a chance for salvation exists.

Adhere to these words: Never. Beta. Back-Slide. Again. She will tell you constantly “I miss when you used to always text me,” perhaps even threaten, “our friendship is over unless you give me the attention you once used to give me,” ignore it all. Continue with c/f and aloofness, but escalate all the while. Cancel on dates, but when you finally show up to one, relish in kino.

Stay away from any impression of desperation. Be talking to other girls. Her longing for your attention will multiply by ten if she feels as though she’s competing for it with someone else. And DON’T give in too early. All the clues that point to her wanting you as a boyfriend is a trick, she wants you to admit your feelings so she can flip the script back in her favor. Escalate, kiss, touch, but do not verbally admit to liking or wanting her. That comes much latter, after attraction has already settled into dust, after your passion has already climaxed. A girl does not want you to make it easy for her, ever.

 

There is no substitute for experience .

Curious though , facing that situation in the restaurant , if you had it to do over again today , what would you do differently ?

 

I would’ve handled it differently from the start, and flirted with the fat girls on the train and teased them about feminism. A plump but wet vagina will still do more for your social proof than nothing. To nourish an ego for no reason is to destroy an opportunity for a bad reason.

If I was caught in the restaurant situation, I would’ve left without ever walking to the table. Avoidance is the charm to all complex dilemmas. Sure I might have been able to disarm the situation better, perhaps answered their remarks with more care and acumen; but brevity is the soul of wit. And a strategy that incorporates nothing but walking away is the briefest of all strategies. I suppose she would’ve contacted me later asking me why I left, to which I would’ve replied “I had a rift with those alligators, if they’re your friends, I doubt they’d approve of us. Sorry,” reframing it on my terms. In essence, I become the one avoiding her because SHE disapproves of me. The genius of it is how little it makes sense. It is logically incongruent, yet in the eyes of a woman, you are now what SHE cannot have, even though it is technically her who is not supposed to want you. Never be angry that women do not abide by the rules of logic, celebrate it and use it to your advantage.

Experience has indeed given me the answer to dealing with all drama; that it need not be dealt with.

 

Hello Shark!

That was quite a story! Her friends turning out to be the fat girls from the train makes it almost seem made-up. How could the universe be so against you on that day?

I have my own dilemma. I hope that you can help me.

Got out of a 4 yrs relationship and did the beta thing of moving across the country back with family and friends. I wasn’t recuperating well and became a shut-in rarely ever going out.

It is last mid October and I go out with a bunch of guys to a friend’s bachelor party. We wind up at a strip club. This one’s in a very questionable part of town but the club itself and the girls are top-notch. After getting situated by the bar, girls are swarming us trying to give us all sorts of bar dances. I hold eye-contact with this one dancing on the stage. Something about her got me or maybe it was that I had stopped thinking about my ex for those 2 seconds. She walks over past the guys in my clique and stops in front of me. She got the call. I wasn’t there trying to pick on anybody…. I was hurt and needed a distraction. I quickly ask her and we go in the back for some lap dances. I’m grabbed by the rest of the crew as I walk back out and I’m rushed outside to catch the party bus.

The next week, I show up by myself. She smiles as she recognizes me from the stage. This time, I go for the champagne room. I don’t seem to care about money, game or the fact that I am the only white guy in the entire place. She seems surprised and drawn to my recklessness. I just wanted to feel once more what I got a taste for a week ago. I’m drunk off the champagne and she is asking me more personal questions. I spill the beans about my recent break-up and even answer as she is asking me details about the ex. I knew that they all do this to establish a connection with whoever they want as a regular. I saw no harm in it at the time. As I am walking out, she asks me for my number saying that we should hang out sometimes. That was something I didn’t know was part of her repertoire.
I continue seeing her at the club and soon we meet outside.

For our first date, I picked her up from her parent’s house. I bring flowers because I had stupidly listened to a female friend say “all types of girls love a gentleman… get her some flowers”. So I do the gentleman thing. I figure that if I show her a different side, if I shower her with kindness and respect instead of treating her like the piece of meat 99.9% of the gangstas do at the club, I may have a chance at impressing her. The body language during the dinner date was hopeful, I thought. Knees pointed towards mine, touching at times. My arm lightly patting her upper back and shoulders as we were laughing after jokes. She even has me meet her parents as I drop her back home. I make some small talk with them as they ask about our date and she leaves them with their mouths open as she informs that I am to drop her off at work.

This was about as good as it got, unfortunately. It is her birthday soon and she starts talking about this pair of shoes she really wants. They’re in the vicinity of a G but I order it for her anyways. Turns out to be the wrong size and it gets shipped back and forward a few times over the months until it fits. Christmas time is around the corner and I tell her my idea of gifts and she gets them for me. I made sure to give her less expensive gifts than she got me. I invite her to a Christmas party that my brother and his wife are throwing. I know it falls on a Saturday (big money night for her) so I propose to re-compensate her on some of her money but she declines and comes anyway.

We’re in the private room of the club. She grabs me and says to think really well and hard. She asks me if I wanted to be fuck buddies or if I wanted a chance at something worthwhile. She knew I’d pick the later. She’d done her homework well.

It is the end of December and she starts reciprocating some of my past relationship talk with her own. This guy she’s been on-and-off with for the last 8 yrs wants her back. She gives me his name as she quickly labels him a man-whore having 3 different kids by 3 different women. I say nothing. She knows I don’t have any kids and I am already “the nice guy”. We had an argument where she talks about feeling pressured by me and then a discussion as she calls me the next day where we agree to take things slow. The months go by and we keep going on our dinner dates and the occasional movie. By this time, I am knee-deep in Oneitis with this stripper that I haven’t even slept with. I’m buying her things… expensive things… I am her walking wallet.

She flips the script and tells me to really watch my spending and to start saving. I tell her that my finances are none of her business to which she implies that maybe she would like it to. She brings up her plan again which is to retire the dancing gig at 30. That is less than a year away now. She wants me to be able to get a nice house. Even though I’m somewhat tipsy, I can’t ignore her complete lack of judgement. She’s talking about moving in with somebody she hasn’t even slept yet. I dismiss it as drivel and I don’t entertain it any further. She buys me an expensive gift soon after the next time we’re at the mall.

She has this weird sense of loyalty, of keeping track of the “nice things” I do for her and she reciprocates by giving lap dances that go well beyond their legal intended nature. Outside, she is the most reserved girl I’ve ever dated. Her emotions and displays of intimacy are kept exclusively to the club and they’re never talked about by either of us. Lately, she brings up sex and how I’ve been so patient with her. She talks about throwing sex into the equation and how that would be something I would always remember her by. Sounds an awful lot like a good-bye fuck.

Her on-and-off ex is back in the picture now. I see her accept him on her FaceBook. We’re suppose to hang out that Tuesday but she never answers my text from the previous night. I leave her alone as her not answering was enough to know she’s not planing to go out. Instead I’m treated by pictures of her ex with her and a bunch of other girls at a record label party late that very night. The man-whore that she so despised has is sandwiched up between her and some other chick. There are couple type pics with him and 2 different other chicks so it’s not exactly sure which one’s his date. I say nothing about it as it is just on his page and we’re not mutual friends. Days later he tags her in the pictures and they wind up on her page. By now it must be obvious to her that I have seen them. I break all contact with her and stop going to the club. She texts me for Easter with some random happy wishes text. I keep it very short and emotion-less. She texts me again the next day about just wanting to say “hi”. I text her back with an even shorter “hi there!”. The next day I text to ask if she’s working that night as I don’t want to make it obvious that I am avoiding her. I plan to go to the club and act aloof and keep the convos short. But she texts back saying that she isn’t working due to her friend’s birthday. She ends up going to the city with some girls from the club… pictures on the wall verifies it. Another day goes by and then she initiates a text that ends with her saying “hope all is well”. Suddenly I think my distance isn’t working so well.

She is a 10 in the most unicorn sense of the word! I know I can’t have a real relationship with her and that she has been stringing me from the beginning based on those very hopes. I know it’s lies and it’s pretty fucked up she had to resort to such cold measures to ensure I stuck to her. How do I make it “worthwhile” for myself in terms of just getting to fuck her once or twice? I’d leave her after that. Sechs never gets me attached even though she thinks otherwise. I know that on my death bed I’d look back at the experience with a wicked smile on my face. I know the memory would be amongst my top achievements list.
She’s pretty insecure and tends to get real jealous when I talk or tip other dancers. I gave one a ride with my car a few months ago, and she had a pretty extreme reaction to that hours later as one of her friends tipped her off about it. Was quick to label me “just like my ex would do” and texted saying how she hopes I wrapped it up and kept her name out of my mouth.

What is the best way of going about getting what I want? I’ve been “the nice guy” in her eyes even though at times she labels me “a dick”. Is it possible to re-negotiate the terms of our agreement into a mutually benefiting relationship? This is assuming she still wants me to pay as we go shopping (and I think she does that hence the checking up on me) and I would be getting sex in return. Thank you and I just realized the length of this….

 

The story was nothing, I have had far more bizarre accounts, just ones I’ve been too lazy and half-ashamed to write up. From prostitutes to a girl who had me dress up in a bunny costume, I’ve been through it all, or still going through it all*.

The length of your comment is fine, I imagine it gave you a bit of clarity to write it all down.

This girl obviously sees you as a long-term commitment, what you must do is TWIST THAT into an ADVANTAGE. Right now you are seeing it as a negative thing, and it is thus playing out as one. For instance, you think she’s using you for your money, and so, you let her use you for your money. The change in her wanting you to save money instead of spending it on her is a result of her more deeply investing into the idea that the two of you will indeed be attached to each other. She sees you as a savior, your job is to NOT play out the savior schema but to still use your positioning in a beneficial way.

See it as “She sees me as a long-term investment, which means, she also has MORE TO LOSE.” I imagine this is the source of her jealousy, her worry that another stripper might dance you away to her own needs and she’ll lose her sole protector and have to resort to getting pumped and dumped by guys who will leave her single and with a kid. So this is what you must do:

Step your game up. Stop slouching, dress better, act Alpha and dominant.

Start flirting with other strippers, make friends with her stripper friends.

The more she mentions her ex, the more you mention a certain new stripper friend you have, and constantly be caught going through your own ex’s Facebook.

The great fault of being a stripper is that while you know you might be a 10, you are surrounded by other 9s and 10s. By relative perception, she does not see her value as far above yours, and you must continuously reinforce this. Place yourself on a pedestal, not her.

And lastly, super charge your “projected” value. Focus every ounce of energy you have in work so she can see you’ll be going places. People ASSUME saviors must be betas, but it is not so. An Alpha Provider is a far better catch to a girl than an Alpha jerk. Perhaps not in adolescent years, but for a stripper who has surely seen the road for women who DON’T quit by 30, that nesting instinct goes crazy.

On the other hand, you could choose to dump her and start anew with a different stripper. The choice is yours.

 

hey Shark, what do you think about the types of girls that are making our game harder to be played.
is there also some Alphaness or Betaness in girls, how can you tell when a 7 can mess with minds like a perfect Alpha, i belive something like certain cues will lead us to the point of being aware and actually PLAY with a qualified opponent with all your best lines and moves.

 

“My dear boy, no woman is a genius. Women are a decorative secks. They never have anything to say, but they say it charmingly. Women represent the triumph of matter over mind, just as men represent the triumph of mind over morals.”

It is not a battle they can ever win; for a woman’s deepest desire is to be dominated, whereas a man’s deepest desire is to dominate. A woman with a reputation for dropping opponents desires to be dominated all the more, for the very reason that she finds it so difficult to find a man worth submitting to. The mating dance for humans is one where women start out winning, but yearn to lose; and men start out losing but yearn to win.

A 7 does not mess with a mind like a perfect Alpha because a perfect Alpha does not mess with a mind. A woman’s game manipulates, it is imprisoning because of its implicit function; it is a test. A man’s game charms, it is liberating because of its implicit function; to liberate. A women seeks to entrap a man within his own insecurities, to keep his secksualized self to himself if it is not worth her love. A man seeks to liberate a woman from her insecurities, to release her secksualized self from herself if it is worth his love.

 

Shark, what’s your opinion on VH1′s “The Pick-up Artist?
Apparently actors are used. Is the advice good?
Thanks

 

The use of actors is to be expected, but does not take away from the message being portrayed. I would still recommend it for people who have the time to watch it.

 

Shark,
Whats your view on letting a girlfriend tattoo the guys name or initials on her belly? Will it mess up with her head or make her more attached?

 

A tattoo is passionless, yet eternal. Love is the orgasm of two passions, yet fleeting. To compliment one with the other makes little sense.

 

Shark — why do Tyler durden in the movie never answer a call? what so alpha about it ?

 

Women are interested in men who are interesting. In men who dress in interesting ways. In men who do interesting things. In men who read interesting books. In men who see interesting visions. In men who have interesting dreams. Everyone answers a call, it’s the normal thing to do. Tyler Durden does not answer his calls, why not?

 

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  • James

    shit my bad what i really meant was, WHY do chicks deactivat their fb, twitter AT THE SAME TIME, is it like they feel ugly or wat dejected ? whats ur take on this. (yeah u got me right i was so fucking pissed, shark can u beleive i tried to pick this chick from my class SHE DOESNT HAVE FACEBOOK SHE DOESNT HAVE A FUCKING PHONE, hahaha i told her “why are u still alive”

  • J

    Ever come unplugged from old ideas so quickly you hear voices for a day? Strangely enough, a conscience and social inhibition can apparently be that strong. How odd to hear your subconscious thoughts contradict ever single move you make. Could have been the JagerMeister and uppers/downers I downed though too. This whole correcting audacity with more audacity is harder than it looks. While I was that wasted I also experimented with frame control from what I can remember. Spilled my guts to family members about god knows what thinking it should be no big deal, I see people do the same all my life without consequence. Not exactly what my common sense agrees with though (not something I do really). There are some things they don’t need to know. Could just be risk aversion though too. I’m not sure I have the stomach for all the paradoxes, despite being well versed in psychology, science, and philosophy. Introversion is my natural propensity, not self disclosure. The voices belonged to my family members, who weren’t actually saying any of what I heard… but boy could they talk some serious shit. Seemed like I got to hear just how much contradiction, negative self-talk, and the degree to which I self monitor and anticipate others thoughts. Not entirely a bad thing, many of my deepest fears and desires heretofore not fully acknowledged also came to light. Anyhow, no I don’t have schizophrenia, however much of your advice here could easily lead to bipolar disorder if taken too quickly. Hell, it’s the very criteria used to diagnose bipolar disorder. An old roommate of mine had a break a couple years ago. Started acting much more confident, productive, and outgoing. After a few months he started having religious delusions and hung himself in
    his mother’s garage. Thankfully, they found him in time. Came out of a coma a few days later and is fine now… with lithium.

  • J

    Such are the risks though I suppose. Reading Robert Glover’s “No More Mr. Nice Guy” currently. Have a refreshed affinity now to that old schizo Kurt Vonnegut now. The price of brilliance. Oh, btw, this is all just a disclaimer or vent session of sorts to see if any of it might strike a chord or memory with you. I’m doing great now. No worse than a bad trip and I’ve spent 6 mo’s with a sudden onset panic/depersonalization/etc… Etc… disorder a few years back I never sought treatment for so I know the psych rabbit hole goes deeper. The enlightening day I had was a couple weeks ago and was a culmination of a great many things. I actually feel very liberated tonight after reading this post. I feel I have a sudden greater grasp of the moral relativism females employ in relationships. It’s as though a weight is finally lifted. All the guilt trips and shit tests I took so seriously over the years since I already feel an inherent need to provide for any female in my charge, not realizing they would not have reacted the way they did if they knew how many bitches I was kicking out to take care of “thing one” (short semi corpulent quasi feminist single mom) and “thing two” (bastard spawn). Time to take Roissy’s advice and start drawing penises on a girls tampons or bra snapping ad infinitum. Why expend the shear amount of mental energy or surrender my psyche that is orders above in self-actualization when puerile relationship game works so easily? Shit man, I feel bad though. Them desperate liberated betches pay for everything! Alright done with my tangent. Good talk. This was fun. Later, guy.

  • AK

    Shark, I had to share this recently discovered video that shows a guy going around ‘almost’ picking up chicks, on purpose though and for entertainment. I wanted to make note of a couple of things as well. 1) It is amazing to see how well women will respond to a cold approach, especially by a male giving off certain closed body language and beta linguistics. 2) The girls seem to be almost INTRIGUED after the guy ejects himself mid-introduction, whether they’re thinking WTF was that shit or “wow, I really wanted to hear what else he had to say.” 3) 1:13 almost blew my mind, even though she is only around a 7.5 or 8.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-WvvFQ_x9M

    What are your thoughts on this?

  • Al

    Shark, as always, thank you for answering my questions.

    Your comments about virtue rather bothers me. While I understand the motivation for your statement, I always try, or imagine I try to hold myself with certain standards, a personal code of honor and principles. Loyalty to friends and family is ranked near the top (I suppose I try to be the “super friend” you were talking about), given we a mutually perceived friendship.

    Are you advocating abandoning such values and “virtues”? How do you conduct yourself personally?

    • J

      I hear ya about the “super friend” thing. The friend’s girl slut-uation comes up now and then for most guys I imagine. I drunk sat my best friend’s girl while he was out of town not too long ago. She appeared blacked out to me, but still functional enough to attempt shoving her hand down my pants a dozen times and begging for various positions. Each time, I pulled her away instantly. I slept on my couch despite her protestations that “no one would ever know”. My arguments?

      1. I would know
      2. She’s vulnerable and in my care
      3. This isn’t “her” or at the very least shouldn’t be
      4. I’m seeing someone else, though it’s not official yet, I can’t do that to her
      5. Even if all of the above wasn’t the case, she’s my friend’s girl and I could not do that to HIM even though I’d already said to him what I might do if she came on to me when they WEREN’T “together”

      I don’t think any of that makes me particularly ethical nor do I have game or get laid much. I just imagine that’s the thought process any moral agent would go through. It’s what adults do. The “if I don’t do it someone else will” or ” you’re doing him a favor ” arguments for being utilized for infidelity never really carried weight to me. It’s the same hamster talk, but from a supposed “man”–I would just think “human being” with empathy and mature defense mechanisms (wiki it) not some sociopath. I may have just bought into feminist conditioning and shaming language, yet I doubt secular humanism, while probably sharing some overlap (Femdom is EVERYWHERE, right?) is rooted in feminism.

      That’s all for now, bud. (I’m in rational discourse mode today). I wouldn’t mind hearing more of how you feel on the “having personal standards as a rule and not as an excuse” errr… front. You sound like a good guy.

      As always thanks, for the site and the intro to the Manosphere, Shark! Wherever it may lead. I’ve got you, CH, Rollo, Dalrock, 7man, GirlWritesWhat/AVoiceForMen, and a few others on the blog roll. It’s becoming a rich tapestry.

  • Ben

    I am trying to think of a way to complement this blog upon my recent discovery, but I can find no words that adequately do it justice. It’s genius, stripped-down, in-your-face, and real. I hope you’re making some good money off this shit, man.

    But my question, or suggestion I guess: You sometimes reference books or talk about something you read somewhere. You should post some reading materials that you think would be worth checking out. I would love to be reading whatever you had your hands on to bring you to where you are today.

    Keep up the good work, sir. Peace and love.

  • Please sent me an e-mail on how to loose my virginity.

  • Dauntless

    Hey Shark,

    Just thought you and the finbase might enjoy this Onion piece.

    http://www.theonion.com/articles/man-finally-put-in-charge-of-struggling-feminist-m,2338/

    How to combat feminism ? Continue treating feminists like the joke that they are.

  • Ben

    love the video with tyler, dudes hilarious.

    This site has helped me a lot with my betaness. I have really seen a huge stride foward in my inner game and as a result my outer game is on point and I am # closing and K-closing every night i go out. I was stuck real bad on oneitis for this girl, my “first love” i suppose. Recently after a few weeks of NC, and me going out every night working on game, I realized I can close girls i never thought i could and was finally starting to feel good again. Cue the text from the ex.

    “Are you gonna pay me back for when i picked you up from the airport?”

    I wasn’t going to respond, but feeling strongly that I am not going to revert to my beta ways with her i chose to respond.

    me-”Sorry who’s this?”
    bitch- “Who recently picked you up from the airport that you owe?”
    me- “..? who is this? i think you might have the wrong number.”
    bitch- “your a dick. It’s _____. I thought you had my number memorized. I needed a ride from you and I helped you out when you needed a ride and now you can’t help me.”
    me- “k”
    bitch- “god fuck you seriously i am really stressed about a ride”
    me- “are you asking for a ride?”
    bitch- “yes my flight leaves at 8.”
    me- “alright i’ll come stay over and we’ll leave in the morning”
    bitch- “okay you don’t have to, like if you’re with people, or if you’re drunk, dont come if you’re drunk”
    I didn’t respond to these, i just went over and called her to let me in.

    I walked in laid down rolled over facing away from her and started to pass out.

    bitch- “hey ben, do you ever think about if we hadnt broken up, we’d probably be getting married soon.” (puts her arm around me)
    me- “yeah, but aren’t you a little glad we didnt, i mean we’re young as fuck, i’m not ready to get married.”
    shit test
    bitch- why do you say such mean stuff to me?
    me- I really don’t wanna talk about the past.
    bitch- well you said some really mean things and im pretty sure i hate you so fine. (Rolls over away from me)
    me- nothing. falls asleep. She wakes me back up.

    I kiss her, she pulls away and says “you’ve hurt me so bad ben i’ll never kiss you again.”
    Fall back asleep. she wakes me back up. I kiss her again, this time she kisses back and i proceed to try to go a little further.
    Anyways, i had to deal with probably 10 shit tests, but by the end i was fucking her from behind, nutted and we both passed out. Then I had to deal with an hour car ride of her telling me how she missed me and that she had been thinking a lot about me and that she had ripped up all our old pictures that day, and how she liked another guy and he didnt end up liking her, I smiled and just drove on down the road. Anyways she brought some CD with all these country love songs and told me they all reminded her of me and stuff. Its obvious shes trying to suck me back in. but schools out in a week and shes graduating and im going home to finish my last year. I don’t want to fall back into anything with her unless i can stay alpha, but i have no problem with a little action this last two weeks here cause she does suck a mean dick and she pushes me to get my schoolwork done.

    My question is, should i even be talking to her, should i have handled her differently, and what should i be focusing on to maintain attraction and rapport with her. We have a nasty on and off history where we dated for one year then were off and on for another year… and it was filled with drama and crazyness, but i guess thats college for you. I feel like ive grown up and know i should probably stay away from her, but part of me kind of wants to keep her around while i pursue other options, just to prove to myself ive changed my beta ways.

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