Take this post as level 2 disillusionment, it assumes you already have a working knowledge over game. As a guy is first introduced to the various intricacies of the female psyche, he begins to see shit tests where he first saw obnoxious behavior, indicators of interest where he first saw random patterns of body language, and the allusive nature of female desire where he first saw only bad fortune. But, in both dating and relationship game, that first level of understanding is not enough to fully comprehend the masked nature of women. Below I’ve pointed out three things that aren’t what they seem; cons that dupe most PUAs still on their training wheels.
(1) When a shit test isn’t a shit test.
In the pre-coital phase, a girl, usually a 5 or a 6, may put you down for no other reason than to increase her own esteemed value in the secksual market. The way it works is similar to a battle royale. From the perspective of a girl, by putting you down or rejecting you she has proven that she is better than you (one of the reasons why an ex might pull you back if you dumped her only to flip the script on you). If you’ve just hooked up with a 9 for example, a 6 might bust your balls to show that she’s “more picky” than the 9, knowing very well that there’s no chance you’ll go for her anyways. Or if you’re considered a respected misogynist, a chick might try and aggravate you into a debate just to showcase her own bitter sagacity.
In the post-coital phase, your girlfriend or a girl you’re dating may choose to publicize your flaws or actively put you down in front of others to equalize both of your statuses. What she perceives is a gap in value and projects that unto the perception of other people, and then tries to close that gap by openly disqualifying you. A giveaway will be if her shit-testing habits go up considerably when you’re with her close friends or your close friends versus when the two of you are alone or in public with people you don’t know very well. Look for signs that is she is trying to prove something to the people who are familiar with your relationship.
(2) When secks talk IS secks talk
In the post-coital phase, a girl bringing up secks, even under unusual circumstances is nothing to be alarmed of. Someone on a forum recently questioned if he should be worried that his girlfriend was bringing up the fact that she was having dreams about fucking movie stars. Women tend to suppress their secksuality even more than men for the double reason of being shamed for it, and not being lucky enough to find a guy they’re attracted to enough to share that repressed energy. If she meets that guy, and got comfortable enough with him, she may hint towards what she wants him to do through indirect signals like this. All you need to do is read between the lines. A girl I dated a while ago had a clear obsession with furries to the point of borderline bestiality, so I, being a merciful lord, dressed up in a rabbit costume for Halloween and relieved her of her tension. It was, I quote from her, the most unbelievable secksual experience she had ever had. No girl is likely to directly communicate her fantasies to you. To be the best lover she ever had, you need to draw them out yourself and then satiate her. It’s far more important to touch on the most erotic spots on her Id than her body.
Some of the more common yet taboo fantasies range from fucking her best friend’s boyfriend (for the very reason that it’s taboo) to bondage and aliens.
(3) When compliments aren’t compliments
As illustrated in the previous post, women are realizing that it’s harder to assess a man’s personality because their tactics are becoming more obvious. As a result, they will tend to bait you into a date or 2 that go pleasantly, and drop a mega shit test far later to blow up your spot. This will happen more often if you have preceding social proof.
But in more subliminal fashion, compliments may also serve to get you to concede to her frame by thrusting you into a “positive” qualifying mentality. Think about how it feels to be “Alpha” in a moment. You’re the best at something, getting massive amounts of attention, and essentially, you want to MAINTAIN this glowing perception that others have of you. But ultimately, this mentality is self-defeating because it takes away the “I don’t give a shit about what other people think of me” attitude crucial in remaining IN STATE in the first place. Some of the more insidious examples:
“Awee you’re so cute. Can you get me flowers? I want flowers from a real prince like you”
“Hey you’re finally cool enough to go on a date with me”
“I heard you were really smart, can I ask for your opinion on something (follow-up with neo-feminist bull shit)”
“You seem like a really nice guy, I’m the rare type of girl who’s attracted to nice guys”