Reader QC posts an illustrious example of an Alpha move that ties in well with the previous post.
If you have time for a monogamous relationship during your peak years, the chances that your relationship will be fulfilling is minimal. That may sound somewhat enigmatic, but the concept is fairly obvious. If you are consumed by an impending mission in life, you introduce an opportunity cost to your minutes. If you “do not have time” for a monogamous relationship, then to pursue one, you must make time. You must sacrifice hours of productivity to be salvaged for love. Without a mutual understanding that you are sacrificing SOMETHING for your relationship, both sides take it for granted. How she feels has already been elaborated in the last post, but the benefit extends to you. When you are under screeching pressure from your self to pursue a higher level of achievement; you begin to constantly appraise the value of your relationship and compare it to the value of your time.
The idea of entertaining a long distance relationship where you’re constantly anxious if she might be cheating? Gone.
The thought of maintaining a relationship where secks comes once in a while in the form of pussy payments traded for good behavior? Gone.
The chances that you’ll try and rush things with a girl because you want to desperately establish exclusivity? Gone.
As proclaimed over and over again; live your life the right away and everything else will fall into place.
But the article brings up another point, can you maintain a monogamous relationship while you’re young and bent on glory? Every minute spent towards the relationship is a minute that could’ve been spent towards your goal. He who sacrifices his conscience to ambition burns the picture to obtain the ashes. And it’s not even the hour glass you need be worried about, it’s the frustration and mental focus that every monogamous relationship demands. The slight obstructions to your trajectory, the minor blows to your halcyon state of mind.
The media complex around the “lonely successful bachelor myth” needs to be dissolved. The bullshit is baffling. Every other movie and song is about a man achieving success only to realize that a family would’ve been more worth it. The two are often portrayed as mutually exclusive, when they are not. You can just as well get married when you’re 35 to a girl in her 20s as you could in your own 20s. Likely under better circumstance, with more experience, and after you are well established. I’d like to see all the guys who have been divorced or lead shitty marriages get together for a callabo and do a song on how pursuing women over your dreams fuckin sucks. In fact, I’d be willing to sponsor it. This rush to settle down out of a fear of loneliness needs to be squashed. The impulse to sacrifice your own dreams for security in the form of a monogamous relationship needs to be killed.