Many have commented on the need for a “start-here” section; I will put something together in the near future.
The recent lack of posts was the result of a one week life-meditative-hiatus I undertook to get certain things in perspective, a practice I highly recommend all of you exercise when you deem it necessary; especially after major life transitions or when your mind feels cluttered from extraneous chatter. Normally it should only take a day or two, but the period can span for as long as needed.
Note, this is not the same thing as a vacation and confusing the two is the reason why most people never experience the former. A vacation takes you away from your worries, it only dislocates them; what I propose is the opposite. You are physically inactive, but your mind remains as efficacious as ever, diving into your thoughts as deeply as possible. It categorizes things into “shit that doesn’t matter” and “stuff that matters.” It distinguishes between “goals that get me closer to my original purpose” and “goals I’ve picked up on the way there that have nothing to do with what I ultimately want to accomplish.” It lets you know how you’re wasting your time or money, reminds you of the things that must be learned or have been forgotten, and warns you of the habits that you must relinquish.
After you come back from a vacation, you are theoretically as inefficient and unproductive as you were before, minus the energy you obtained from being physically rejuvenated. You come back, and everything is the same, just as you had left it. When you come out of a meditative hiatus, you are 10x as productive as you were before. Not in terms of how “hard” you’re working, but in terms of moving in the right direction and being able to triage your priorities. You may even work less, if you determine afterwards, “I am not spending enough time with my family,” or something of the sort. Your new-found clarity will grant you the ability to understand what you really want in life, to visualize your future, and to gauge your progress more accurately. For those of you who feel you are “over-analyzing” the world, or are torn between choices, I urge you to consider a brief stretch of self-reflection. If you are making a major decision, this will let you analyze your options in the style of Zen, rather than the crack-like state of paranoia you usually make decisions in.
In an aptly coincidental way, throughout the week I ran into moments that summarized all of my thoughts. While eating Chinese food with a friend, I opened a fortune cookie that said, “Happiness is to be content with little” while she opened one that said, “greatness is achieved through hard work.” Immediately, she said, “we switched cookies by accident, this one must be yours,” inducing a split second epiphany. To be content with little versus to be frustratingly pursuing a greater degree of accomplishment at all times because you are never content with what you have are simply two opposing views of the world. Both can be justified, and neither trumps the other from a Meta perspective. Which made me realize, this blog does not spread “truth” in a distilled fashion, in that regard, the way I thought it had. It spreads an opinion. It encourages people to see the world the way I see it, to seek out challenges, to develop, to always strive for more. If you agree with that view, you will benefit from most of what I have to say. But if you relate more to the school of thought encouraged by The Underachiever’s Manifesto, do not take my view to be “superior” than your own or better than any others. Simplicity is magnificent in its one way. The comments that quote “Shark, you say I do!” fail to grasp the fundamental purpose of this blog. Live and think the way you deem fit; not in a way dictated by anyone else.
I was reminded again of the pain of a break up. It seems that no matter how much mastery or experience is achieved in the process of learning Game, one always remains susceptible to the feeling of emptiness. But you learn not to let it overwhelm you. I no longer fear it; I admire it for being the greatest of humbling experiences.
Work has been a mess for the past 2 or 3 months because I have been working in a way that made me think I was working hard, when I really wasn’t. Made bad investments, had bad ideas; and they were all pursued with the idea that if I worked psychotically hard enough, everything could be turned around. Cutting all of my losses this past week has reminded me that to achieve beyond your dreams, you must combine audacity with practicality. One without the other always leads to failure. You either see too little and willingly jump into a pit, or you see too much and are never willing to jump at all.
And finally, just yesterday, I overheard a conversation about Game. After a few minutes, my name was dropped and I realized they were talking about THIS site and my own articles. How it helped them overcome their break ups and how one of them finally found a girlfriend he was happy with because he had learned to date through multiple women and screen for natural chemistry better. The other talked of how, although he still hasn’t had much success with women, it helped him overcome approach anxiety and how he now feels comfortable being himself. It was refreshing, to say the least, to see the fruits of my work play out before me in 3-D. I pondered for a moment about what it would be like if I introduced myself as their lord and savior; then grabbed my laptop and ran away.