A Promise

On June 4, 2012 by Shark

So I take it that the lot of you grant me some degree of integrity? That you trust my judgement, that you understand that I sacrifice my own time to answer some of your queries? That I am a man of my word? Then heed this,

I promise, I solemnly swear, I pledge, I stake my own life; that if you come upon that oh very vast plateau in life infamous for exhausting meager minded men, and you sacrifice your very fucking conscience to overcoming it, that it will bend itself in whichever way you want. I promise, that the days you spend grinding towards a goal or a project without reaping any visible rewards, will never be a waste. That you will never regret risking too much while putting everything you have into it; you will only regret gambling too little while putting everything you have into it, or gambling too much but not putting enough of yourself in. I promise, that if your’re willing to burn all of your distractions, walk away from the relationships that imbibe your energy, and punch yourself in the face the next time you sell yourself short, that no ambition, no level, no goal, no league, no extravagance, no obstacle, no time-limit, no other person will seem too significant, too impossible, or too unbecoming. None, nothing, no one.

I promise that the time you spend reading the classics, academic journals, enriching yourself with as much knowledge as possible, will be worth it. There will be people who tell you that you are wasting your time. They do not know what I know. I promise that that last rep of push-ups, the one you’re sure is impossible, is possible. And that if you consistently eat oatmeal, protein, and vegetables instead of Mcshitty burgers, your life will be better. That if you want to lose weight bad enough, you will lose weight. I promise that when you’re trying to learn how to paint, sing, dance, or play the piano; your sucking shit phase will pass. Consistent practice. No secret techniques, no magical formulas, nothing. Just hard work.

I promise that the girl you’re chasing isn’t worth it. That the Oneitis your suffering from is not your soul-mate. That the girl you’re driving yourself crazy over won’t make you happy. That you’re better off dumping your garbage instead of trying to recycle it. I promise that heartbreak is nothing easy, but that is something every man must go through. And the more times he goes through it, the stronger he becomes. I promise that all you need to do is grind your teeth and keep telling yourself “push through.” That there will be nights when you’re sure “I messed up the greatest thing in my life,” and that if you accidentally believe yourself, you’ll regret it for a lifetime.

All of this, I promise. Triumph. Keep pushing.

I can’t tell you how I know all of this, but I know it. I’ve been blessed with certain powers of prophecy. It has been written on an antique scroll like the one below some trillions of years ago. If you ever doubt yourself, don’t doubt me. I am never wrong, come back and read this when you have to.

 

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69 Responses to “A Promise”

  • Dude, Shark this was beautiful. Thank You!

  • Ricky

    I have learned and i continue to learn. I am glad that you have been and contiue to be a part of that process. Thank you Shark.

  • Ali

    This is beautiful.

  • Slick#7

    Man… You are an alien.

  • P

    Cheers to that.

  • jaquan

    shark is back more inspired than ever. we fucking missed you man! great post and shark i dont doubt myself but i dont doubt you neither because you led me to the path of never doubting myself. you will stay my friend forever man. here is something my father told me before i left my country in Africa, and i will share it with you guys.

    “Son, If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for something.”

  • James

    i promis i will never stop coming here

    • Matt

      James Above ^^^
      “i promis i will never stop coming here”

      - He’s missing the point of this post -_-

      Thanks Shark, I don’t usually like to write a thank you after every post as you get so many and I believe you know the impact that your having on people who come here and reading just thank you comments must get tedious.

      I think I understand the message that you are giving in this post. I interpret it as your minions coming to your blog creating the state of mind and alphaness that we should be in. And it is once we have our lives on track, our mission in life which we work at, it is then we can let go from your help when we are finally that person that you are trying to shape us into and be Triumphant.

      I like the fact that I’m at uni, and at the moment I am developing my foundations, with the help from your knowledge and at the time don’t feel as though I’m ready to let go. I think finally when I leave uni, get a career that I enjoy, and start the provider stage is then when I can let go. Until then I’m happy having fun and building myself into an Alpha Male while moving forward in the right direction as i believe.

      • Malt

        I do also think that many people are starting to miss the point of Shark’s words. Many people are idolizing him, thinking of him as a god or beyond human. Shark is just a man, like the rest of us, who worked for what he has. If people see him as a god, then by definition, those people cannot achieve his level since they are simply humans.

        He is no god, he is flesh and blood like the rest of us and we can achieve his level. The whole point of coming here is to get on the road to that level.

        And for you Matt, keep working on it. Don’t think you cannot let go until a certain future. It is like procrastinating and putting things for later. If you can do it now, do it!

  • Alex

    Thank you, Shark.

  • This is your best post ever. (and the thing i just said is so prophetic that i can’t diminish it’s value by writing random shit after it)

  • dreamer

    WOW, it seems like a special speech, like it’s for me only.
    it truly sounds like I am going on a war and my father’s GIVING LAST advice.

    FEELS LIKE A MAN.

  • Modern Manson

    So what you’re saying is that if I want to have what charles manson had, bad enough. I can have it?

    If my mind can conceive it, my body can achieve it!?

    Good things are going to happen for me, as long as I never have “NO” in my heart?

    All the time I’ve spent researching charles manson and pimps, was not for nothing, it all collected in my mind to come together and give me the knowledge I need to become like they are.

    I am like god and god like me, I am as large as god, he is as small as I, He cannot above I or I beneath him be.

    The benefits that Manson had back in the sixties are outweighed by the benefits of knowledge advancements, I have today?

  • Pang

    Thank you Shark

  • Manson GAME?

    QUESTION!!!! I commented before, But it was a short message and i can see how it would be easy
    to miss.

    DEAR, SHARK.

    I see Charles Manson as a short, hairy, criminal type of guy. As I understand it, he got out of jail in 1967 and started to attract women, and these women fell so in love with him that they would do absolutely anything to please him. (EVEN KILL)

    My question is, would you give your opinion of charles manson and thoughts on how he was able to have such control over the women in his “FAMILY”?

    How did he do it?

    Is it possible for a man to have that level of devotion with women now days?

    What would a man need to do, to get that sort of cult like following with women??

    P.S. I’ve heard from several different sources that Manson got pretty heavy into reading Dale Carnegie’s “How To Win Friends And Influence People”, among other psychology books.

  • G

    This brought tears to my eyes. thanks for saving my life Shark.

  • Seneca

    Great to have you back shark,the timing of this article is quite relevant for my. Last week I went to play Ice hockey for the first time,in Ireland this sport us not played by many as there has never been a ice rink open for a long period of time,one will open for a year then close down because of insurance,lack of funds etc. Most Irish people who are competent in the sport have spent time abroad in Canada,eastern Europe or wherever the sport is renowned.

    It must of been the 10th time I flattened myself on the ice when I thought,would an alpha male ever do this?This is the opposite of dominating,I am learning how to play a sport with a bunch of other people who are terrible at it,being told what to do by coaches with decades of experience. I threw myself in to it,sweating buckets and not giving a shit how often I fell(it doesnt even hurt with the pads) but I still kept wondering about how it was the opposite of dominating.

    Its not the first time I’ve done something simply for the sheer experience of it and it certainly wont be the last time I have to swallow my pride and start learning something from the start with no prior experience.

    Shark are things like this worth it?I can see myself getting much better at it and I enjoy it but is hanging up my skates the smarter option and spending that time on a project in which I am more proficient and capable? Thanks.

  • Arachnid

    Great post, Shark… Just what I needed today. Couple quick questions you could possibly post about.

    1) Why is it such a common sexual fantasy/fetish for guys to want to watch their gf/wife have sex with another guy? It seems to fly in the face of all our evolutionary hard-wiring.

    2) After watching The Avengers movie, I noticed something interesting. Every single girl that knows anything whatsoever about comic books/superheroes is absolutely obsessed with Thor. On the surface, it’s easy to see why (he’s power incarnate), but I got to wondering why girls obsess over him at the expense of the other very Alpha characters in the Marvel univerise. Take Robert Downey Jr.’s portrayal of Tony Stark, for instance. His character is a Super Alpha all the way, and he runs cocky/funny so well, it’s an art form to watch. But put him in a room with Thor, and none of the girls watching remember he’s there. Why do you think that is?

    Now if you’ll excuse me, I have worlds to conquer. *cracks knuckles*

  • centaur

    Great come back post

  • Chris

    Thank you

  • manish

    I promise that everything you wrote every word in this article has made a positive change that has touched my mind my heart and my soul. I promise to be the best in my field of work, I promise I will always prefer gaining knowledge from books then watch TV. I promise to eat the right type of foods to exercise to eliminate all habits that I don’t need. Shark, I promise that I am someone that you’d be proud of if you knew me in person as much as I am proud of you.

    I promise to be like a SHOOTING STAR that will create a crater deep enough on impact for the whole world to remember me before I am silenced forever. . .

  • Sebastian

    Thank you for all of this. Your time, thoughts, theories and knowledge.

  • Richie

    EPIC..!!

  • Msam

    Love you man !

  • hey

    i know for a fact that it takes more than “just hard work” to achieve great things. to truly achieve greatness one has to work hard AND be guided by an intellectual mentor or some other form of positive guiding influence. it’s like racing with the fastest car, only in the backwards direction. you might be going fast and working hard, but you’re going in the wrong direction that will lead to only bad things

    you can’t say roger federer became the best tennis player without a coach, you can’t say newton became the best scholar without influence from previous scholars, and i personally can’t attribute all of my good qualities to only my hard work. i give part of the credit for that to you, and the rest to others, since those are who helped guide my hard work. and i recognize that I wouldn’t be where and who i am without such guidance

  • John

    You’ve changed the lives of thousands of people.
    What else can I say?

  • Monty Pelican

    Noted. Post as infrequently if you like if these are the gems that emerge.

  • Joe

    How was contemplating reconnecting with my ex gf who i left to better myself and become adept at pick up because I was horny.

    Suffice to say this has detracted me from doing so.

    More of the same please

  • Ryan Parker

    I love u man

  • mason

    Hi shark, I know what you say about relationships during your peak years but I’m 18 and have a girlfriend I have a question about.
    The secks is great. She never denies secks, blows me in bathrooms, on boats, on the beach during the day, etc. I just made her squirt last night. She knows other women want me. She makes me sandwiches, and tries to please me in general. In other words I’m pretty alpha with her.

    But sometimes, she does things that just make me wonder a bit, such as meeting old friends/coworkers and not introducing me. What do I do in that situation, where she doesnt introduce me as her boyfriend?

    She also hung out with her ex’s circle while said ex was present, and never asked if I was ok with it, she doesnt know I know though, a friend told me.
    She never overtly disrespects me, but this covert disrespect makes me wonder.

    • hey

      ” but this covert disrespect makes me wonder.”

      but that’s ironically the whole point. she wants to make you wonder, and she’s obviously succeeding.

  • Horus

    Genius! It just blew my mind off! Thanks for everything Master!

  • dead

    great speech. unfortunately, it just makes me feel like shit right now.

    and yeah, the Thor thing, totally dead on about girls. my ex after seeing the movie was suddenly obsessed with him and also does have a slight knowledge of comics

    fuck everything right now, in my life.

    i hope you all never have to deal with what i am currently.

    but cheers to the rest of you.

    this blog can help many. but i warn you of what it may do even if temporary to your perception of things, and be weary also of the consequences this newfound change in attitude may bring, they are unexpected, unfathomable, and sometimes outright malicious – people will try to destroy you once you understand them

    trust no woman with anything more than her desire to do what she wants, and if you happen to be that temporary desire, trust that you are only that, a temporary fleeting thing, and hopefully she’s not BPD or insane, because if she is, you’ll be where I’m at and your life will be destroyed by her, especially if you try to get away

    and i’m not whining, i’m just personally not where i should be, considering.

    imagine thor as a eunuch without his hammer realizing he’s just an actor, that’s where i’m at.

    goodbye

  • Akmed

    ” promise that the girl you’re chasing isn’t worth it. That the Oneitis your suffering from is not your soul-mate. That the girl you’re driving yourself crazy over won’t make you happy. That you’re better off dumping your garbage instead of trying to recycle it. I promise that heartbreak is nothing easy, but that is something every man must go through. And the more times he goes through it, the stronger he becomes. I promise that all you need to do is grind your teeth and keep telling yourself “push through.” That there will be nights when you’re sure “I messed up the greatest thing in my life,” and that if you accidentally believe yourself, you’ll regret it for a lifetime.”

    Semi regular reader here, this paragraph came just in time, thanks Shark, may your path be long and prosperous.

  • ev

    Timing… Thank you Shark. You’re my true father.

  • Metaman

    Enlightenment always has its downsides. Go with it. We’re here to learn and explore. Not hide and ignore.

  • Tom

    Shark,

    Do all girls that are hb6 and above break up with beta males eventually? I see a lot of beta males with gfs or married and everything on the outside seems gravy.

    Also what if your on a remote location for school and you are spending everyday with your gf because the place is like a mini highschool (600 students) nothing else to do but study and spend time with gf/bf, is that ok? Or is the girl eventually going to get sick of you? Are you still suppose to have a life, use competitive tension etc?

  • Carvaggio

    The simple truth of living for yourself articulated as the empowering paradigm it is. Its tragic that this has been lost through the would be “matrix” of modern society.

  • Dutch

    Such timing.

  • ihmotep

    Thank you shark..

  • boscas

    Man this post almost brought me to tears , it made me INVINCIBLE !!!

  • Cid

    Shark you tha mannn. Was wondering if you could do a post on first dates. How dominant / friendly one should be. How commanding / go with the flow one should be. With reference to the girl I played cocky funny pretty well the night I number closed her and she’s been texting me iois like crazy since.

  • Stupido

    Shark, I need your help: I beta-imploded yesterday and need to understand how to pick this up (or if it’s too late). I’ve been with my GF for 9 months, played it mostly solid. However I’ve become increasingly frustrated with my GF’s double standards (she is jealous of my girl-friends but will be all touchy-feely with a guy friend of hers, will say she doesn’t trust me but then go out and get wasted etc). This has gotten to the point where I was considering breaking up last week, so I decided to make an attempt at salvaging this because despite all the crap, I have amazing chemistry with this girl. I do know there are a ton of other girls out there.

    So long story short, yesterday I sat her down for a talk. Despite the overt communication mistake, I was calm and secure speaking to her and did not turn into a whiny bitch. But I ran into all the rationalisations that you speak about in your blog posts (“I am only like that with him [her guy friend] because I know nothing will happen!”, “I don’t drink anymore because I know it bothers you”, “Your friends are bitches towards me that’s why I don’t like them”, etc). I made a point of saying I’m not jealous, I like her friend and couldn’t care less if she sits on his lap, but I just can’t stand her double standards.

    Later we had make-up sex and I was ultra-dominant to make up for my beta mistake, and I made her come like 6 times. She couldn’t move at the end and I thought I had fucked the resentment out of her, but she started crying and said “you fucked me, but you didn’t make love to me”. I was shocked and just stood there like an idiot, although I didn’t apologise. I told her what she saw was passion and desire and then I said – in what shall forever be known as I my dumbest mistake to date – “I’ve never desired another woman the way I desire you”. As soon as the words left my mouth I realised my mistake (putting her on a pedestal) and today I woke up even more frustrated than yesterday.

    I should add she says all the time that she’s afraid of losing me, that she has never loved someone like me etc. I know words mean nothing and it’s all about her actions, so I ask you:

    - Have my mistakes made her hamster lose respect for me and will this inevitably lead to me getting LJBF?
    - If there is a way around this, what is it (I don’t know if competitive anxiety will be enough)?
    - How much of a beta bitch am I? Hit me, I can take it.

  • T

    Nice post, Shark.

  • Cid

    P.S. in “the art of seduction” Greene speaks of being nice in the beginning stages of a seduction, I’m assuming to build rapport, but that too much niceness is deadly to seduction. I understand this to be very true, although how nice / dominant should one play early on? Not that I’ve never pulled babes before, but I do wanna get the point of view of someone more practiced than I.

  • Jake

    Shark,
    My gf went through my cell phone and saw couple text messages of me calling other women sexy and pretty. She flipped the hell out and accused me of cheating on her. ( Even though I never did, honestly). I tried to explain to her that they were nothing but flirtatious texts and they don’t mean anything. She still refused to listen and told me the relationship was over. what do you think? I haven’t talked to her in a week almost and from what I hear she swears that I cheated because her gut feeling tells her so, but she also admited that she has no solid proof. At this moment she is very very angery and probably hates my guts. ( I wonder what she would have done had she acftually caught me cheating for real).
    What do you think Shark? should I just forget her and let her contact me when she cools off? should I try to send a little text every now and then to let her know that I’m still around when she is ready to talk? …

  • matty

    Self discovery is achieved through thorough self reflection and cannot be sought after without a maligning self awareness that is perpetual to one’s own sense of being. Every day, every step, every thought is anchored with a prejudice entwined to my own manufactured expectations of every word and every pre conceived notion I ponder to say or contemplate inwardly about for torturous purposes out of my control.
    It is within this sphere of anxiety that restricts my inability to grasp freedom from inexplicable depths testified by only those no longer with us. Prescribing to clichés and reaching for dreams is presumably the skilled masking of deep seated emotions conducted by those without qualm of forgoing introspective navigating of their actions most transparent to everyone but themselves.

  • Necorochi

    Speaking of promises, lets say your were living up life to the fullest and your not backsliding and acting alpha, spinning multiple plates etc.

    Then your girlfriend see’s one of your p̶l̶a̶t̶e̶s friends(Dose not know I’m fucking) and know’s your close with your friend and is obviously kind of jealous

    Then she hits you with this shit test “Promise me you will stop talking to her”. Now I know you don’t ignore her and also know you don’t give in.

    What is the correct course of action?

    • nemesis

      1. Why are you concerned on “acting” alpha, instead of becoming what you want and stop using terms like “alpha” “beta” that keep you plugged in another illusionary system
      2. Shit tests ===> amused mastery, which means:
      1) you either don’t give a fuck and ignore (not a spasmodic attempt to show that you are ignoring, but really aren’t giving a fuck, and this comes from self mastery, aka emotional control, that you can develop either with A) Studying and applying PNL (real pnl, not the seduction gay shit pnl), which is the modern metrosexual method, B) Being a winner in some area of your life and feeling the Testosterone/Monoaminergic neurotrasmitter rushes in sports, job (creative careering jobs with concrete better/worse criteria), not Mcdonalds, killing wild animals, climbing mountains, assassinating Crime Mobsters, swimming from England to France (everything taken to the extreme but, as Shark and others would say, getting out of your comfort zone);
      2) You answer in a sarcastic/amused/ironical way and again it’s just the same thing as 1) or you just don’t listen to her fucking shittesting cuz you TRULLY have other shit to do and you are just fucking annoyed by all these whining bitches complaining they want everything blablabla cuz they are lazy ass bitches that need males to make all the fucking work for them and want the attention. Remember, when she is using Shit Testing she is doing two things: Attempt to test your frame and the legitness or attraction she might feel for you and understanding if she is right in wanting your DNA (in evolutionary terms, if she can spend 9 months of life carrying your semen in her uterus), And trying to maximize/complain about lack of rapport, which in evolutionary terms means seeking attention for you because she is a fucking woman and primitively she needs protection and she tries to obtain it from the greatest amount of people and orbiters she can find.

      Translation: you do what you want, keep talking to the other girl, if you want tell your gf that you are fucking this girl’s asshole and cumming in her nose and acoustic meatus. Btw I don’t really see the point on having a gf and doing all this cheating hidden stuff, seems pretty lame, like if you are trying to prove yourself that you are capable of fucking women. If you don’t get rid of this self-doubt you won’t ascend to another level where you control your own life. If you need to fuck multiple girls you don’t need to prove anything to anyone or to keep a gf to be all touchy-feely with

      • nemesis

        By PNL I meant NLP

        I wanted to add this: Physiologically, emotional control means developing your Prefrontal cortex, whose neurofibers keep in check your evolutionary more ancient emotional limbic system which is Amygdala & co. Amygdala produces fears, and has a circle system with other lymbic organs like hypotalamus and hippocampus and other cortical areas that create a vicious circle in storing negative emotions and associating them to negative experiences, thus preventing your conscious from acting in front of those experiences. Prefrontal cortex is the latter area of your brain to develop during post-puberty, it means that you first experience fears, but then you man-up and build a solid prefrontal by fighting your fears, thing that today has been abandoned, due to overpopulation and the whole alpha-beta, feminization and matrix systems, that’s why men keep being giant vaginas or acting like children even in late 30s. Schizophrenics and other neuronal disorders (not those matrix inventions of psychiatric disorders) are due to low development of prefrontal cortex during teen age. Alcoholics also impair their prefrontal development. I’m telling you this just to remember that every fucking thing that you experience in your conscience is an illusion and is due to real biochemical mechanisms that DO MODIFY overtime. All you need to do is to ignore people telling shit like “just be yourself” only to keep your person in safe control , and push forward in life. “Let yourself be altered by life” (Pook)

      • Necorochi

        I think you misunderstood me somewhat when I said “acting” I can see how you easily misinterpreted. I’m not so much “concerned” I was using that as a means to let other readers know that I was being totally “Alpha” meaning no backsliding, good frame etc. Even if I was “acting” that’s not a bad thing, you as an avid reader here should know that even if you are not at the top to “Fake it until you make it”.

        Also, using terms like “Alpha” or “Beta” is completely irrelevant. I can understand you saying that to a beginner so that they are not worried about thinking “Was I acting Alpha enough?” etc. I totally agree but I can assure you that is not the case here, no need to be “concerned”.

        Next, when you said

        “Btw I don’t really see the point on having a gf and doing all this cheating hidden stuff, seems pretty lame, like if you are trying to prove yourself that you are capable of fucking women. If you don’t get rid of this self-doubt you won’t ascend to another level where you control your own life.”

        Hmm, it seems to me you can use a taste of your own advice, let me enlighten you.

        First, you think it “lame” because you are still somewhat plugged in, their is no such thing as write or wrong. If you think cheating is “Lame” or wrong then you are still holding on to these feminized moral codes that emasculate men. They want you to think “cheating” is “Lame” so you don’t have options. We are animals.

        A wise man once said ” If you don’t get rid of this self-doubt you won’t ascend to another level where you control your own life.” The guy that said that is my hero. Moral codes is a way of control. Thank God for people like this guy.

        The reason I posted this was to encouraged discussion against Noob’s and like minded people like you and myself. Which i’d like to say your #2 point was really good.

        “You answer in a sarcastic/amused/ironical way”

        I totally agree, vague but good.

        Let’s get into some details, how would you guys reply to a girl saying “Promise me you will stop talking to her.” in your own words?

        • nemesis

          what is feminized is having a “girlfriend”. Unless you are a professional and need somehow to act covertly to avoid the matrix kicking you from your income source (being fired cause you are 35yrs old and single), then you are being gay, or beta, or lame or how you want to fucking call it by having a GF and fucking other women and hiding it from her. And it’s because you are fucking afraid. I am no troller and I’m against arguments on forums, but seems like only Shark can say this stuff without receiving cognitive dissonance resistances. Also, you don’t need to classify yourself with me, for I’m not doubting your alphaness, which, as you said, is a completely irrelevant terminology.
          Getting down to details:
          Her=>”Promise me you will stop talking to her”
          You=> 1) ok

        • nemesis

          what is feminized is having a “girlfriend”. Unless you are a professional and need somehow to act covertly to avoid the matrix kicking you from your income source (being fired cause you are 35yrs old and single), then you are being gay, or beta, or lame or how you want to fucking call it by having a GF and fucking other women and hiding it from her. And it’s because you are fucking afraid. I am no troller and I’m against arguments on forums, but seems like only Shark can say this stuff without receiving cognitive dissonance resistances. Also, you don’t need to classify yourself with me, for I’m not doubting your alphaness, which, as you said, is a completely irrelevant terminology.
          Getting down to details:
          Her=>”Promise me you will stop talking to her”
          You=> 1) ok 2) only if you promise me your anus 3) She is applying for a collaboration on my surgery paper 4) She is stalking me and she threatens to sue me for harrassment is I don’t marry/fuck her 5) Shut the fuck up 6) My dear, I would never harm your feelings 7) You are better than her 8) I was afraid you were getting fat 9) When are you going to stop with this childish jaelousy behavior? 10) say nothing 11) I like turtles 12) I need to poop/go to work 13) We are done here, goodbye 14) Stupid bitch, when you’ll stop being afraid of being alone maybe we’ll start enjoying our story 15)You need to man up and grow some balls (ironical calibration of today’s inverted polarities), when did you stop being the “strong” woman you have always been?
          I don’t think I need to come up with more of this shit, all you need is a little bit of creativity, but I’m sure you’ll now say I’m beta, or this is bullshit, only because we didn’t get much rapport according on your answer. Yes, you are more a man than me and you can get more pussy

  • Jose r.

    Shark can you please email me the book. I would really appreciate it. Jribbs23@hotmail.com

  • Andrew

    Shark,

    You have no idea how much those words mean to me. You have literally saved my life. I will remember this and look to it for inspiration.

  • zombie

    http://www.cnn.com/video/?hpt=hp_c2#/video/us/2012/06/08/drew-bts-bryant-allred-face-eating-case.hln

    shark i think that you would find this interesting. the girlfriend of the man who bit off someone’s face still says that she loves him. women prefer psychotic face eating zombies over pussy betas. wow…

  • James

    cmon man, say something im starting to worry here, u aight ? long time no response from u

  • Cyrus

    Hey shark,

    I want to make sure I made the right move here. Let’s start from the beginning.

    Was dating a girl a couple months back. We had been in a relationship for about 6 months and we already were living together which was a huge mistake. I beta backslid in the relationship and caught it, mostly thanks to you, and had started to recover. At which point she managed to get a DWI.

    I didn’t hear from her much that weekend and she stayed at her sister’s, presumably to get her head straight. Then I got the call saying she wanted to take a step back. That she couldn’t be caught up in a relationship right now and couldn’t be the girl I deserved, that she didn’t want to hold me back BUT she still wanted to “date”.

    Of course these were all excuses and she quickly became distant, but led me on until her family (of all people) informed me that she was already sleeping around, this was a few weeks after the incident. At which point she figured out it had happened shortly after, panicked and sent me a text to try to maintain control of the situation. Instead of responding: I removed her from Facebook and texted her the following morning that she needed to get the rest of her things out of my apartment and return my key. She hammered me with tons of calls, voicemails and texts while I was at work; but she did as she was told. Finally after work I told her to chill out and that I’d talk to her when I was ready.

    To spare to many details. Over the next couple weeks she moved 40 minutes out of town, we agreed we needed to talk at some point, I texted her drunk and then deleted her number the following morning.

    Since then, she’s texted me a few times saying that we will talk soon and attempted to friend me on Facebook. I ignored every text and didn’t touch the Facebook friend request. Basically trying to get validation/betatize me.

    Then a couple days ago, Friday night. She texted saying she was in town and asked if I was busy to which I responded an hour later “I am”. Then she asked “doing what? If I may ask”. Which she quickly took back saying it was none of her business, that we promised we’d talk (we didn’t “promise”), she just wanted me to be happy, if that was not talking to her to let her know, to have a safe night and that she’s here when I decide. Trying to take a position of power and take the high road, but still tipping her hand because that is all transparent.

    Then she messed up her little game. I got a text at 3am saying “I hope she feels as good as I did my baby…”, then at 8am an apology text saying she had been drinking and she doesn’t do that anymore. All of this from my one text in response. Making it quite obvious I’m still on her mind and she can’t get over me, that she needs to betatize me to move on.

    I didn’t respond all day, knowing that I’d risk being beta if I did. I was tempted to reply with “could you be anymore psycho” but i didn’t think that was the right move. The following day, this morning I decided that I would text her. I texted her “Be a big girl and make plans, then maybe we’ll talk”. I feel like this communicated “I couldn’t give a shit whether we talk or not”, “I’m a busy person” and “I don’t respect you because you aren’t following through”.

    Now after all of that, seeing that I wouldn’t mind sleeping with this girl again (not dating her)…did I make the right move?

    Thanks in advance,

    Cyrus

  • Anonymous

    Shark. You’ve helped me tremendously, but this part makes me rise my eye brows.

    “I can’t tell you how I know all of this, but I know it. I’ve been blessed with certain powers of prophecy. It has been written on an antique scroll like the one below some trillions of years ago. If you ever doubt yourself, don’t doubt me. I am never wrong, come back and read this when you have to.”

    To trust someone that you can’t review in daylight eye to eye, – Blindly, without any kind of proof is not only show of extreme weakness for the men that choose to do so, but it’s also unhealthy to rely blindly on a guru that tells you that he’s got been blessed with extraordinary powers, it’s the excact opposite of what an Alpha male would do, independent thought is what drives men to do extraordinary things, not following a guru blindly. Shark, I love what you do – but saying you have extraordinary powers and that you’re never wrong is too much. Even if you don’t manipulate or hurt people, it can open up for an unhealthy dependency for certain people that reads this blog on the regular, a dependency on someone to make decicions for them. You’re probably joking about it – But some people really do believe you when you say you’re never wrong etc.

    Hopefully you have realized your responsibility long ago.

    Cheers!

  • charlie dawson

    the father i never had ,,,,,, thankyou shark

  • seductionbase

    YOU SAVED MY LIFE, such an inspiration you are.
    thats the only comment i’ll ever leave on this blod.

  • Dave

    Amazing advice man. Thanks!

  • Hoboemperor

    Would be a pleasure to meet the shark! Was in a painful backsliding first relationship for a year and I’ve found your website midway which was when things started to go bad. got dumped in Oct. I will keep pushing and be the man of my own. You have been great motivation but now that I’m on my own once again, it’s time to imprint your philosophy into my soul and also remain true to my own values. Push Through. Keep Pushing.

  • dude , shark this ws soo awesome , i believe dat u cn be anytin u want 2 be jst it dependz on the work u did 2 archiev ur goal … thx man!!!!!!!!!!

  • young padawan

    i think i am finally able to understand this shit – working on my inner game is improving everything else in my life, i feel it’s a positive feedback loop and once you’ve reached the threshold shark mentions there are no more things that you can or can’t, there are only things that you want or you don’t want.

  • I come back to this from time to time.

    Some of it I know word for word.

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